You can be "good good" or you can be good but, you can't be good-er than us....
You can be "good good" or you can be good but, you can't be good-er than us....
Because ain't nothing but a cheap bang baby To low down G. So we crazy Death grow against the label that pays man Unfatable. So please don't try to fade this. But I'm back to the lecture at hand. Back to the lecture, or legend, at hand. This one gonna be very roundabout, but we gonna get there. You know, as being an older sibling, you learn a lot of times how to bite your tongue.
Speaker 1:You know, younger siblings tend to complain about things that are kind of useless and then they do things like you know throw your jacket on the ground when there's other places to put your jacket, but because they wanna make a point or emphasize that you are affecting a common space, cause ain't nothing but a cheap bang baby To low down G. So we crazy Death grow against the label that pays man Unfatable. So please don't try to fade this. But I'm back to the lecture at hand. Between iPhone 13 and Mi arose and the series that's what Gแ are kind of useless.
Speaker 1:And then they do things like you know throw your jacket on the ground when there's other places to put your jacket, but because they wanna make a point or emphasize that you are affecting a common space, let that be known a common space. Right, that they have self-proclaimed their own. When you live in a home with other people, it just starts to get on your nerves. You know what I'm saying. As mild-mannered as one individual being myself can be, you know they try and test your pace. It's almost like somebody say, being in a romantic relationship, you know, and in this episode, like I said, it's gonna be a roundabout way. I talked about having a younger sibling who tends to always want to feel heard and make sure that her opinion is being valued. But, shumbo, how can I as a man, you know, trying to be a good man, you know we have our stumbles Introduce someone new in my life to someone who wants to bring so much chaos into mind. They say blood is thicker than water. God damn it. Sometimes you need to let shit burn. What by one of my favorite R&B artists shout out to my man?
Speaker 1:Usher recently put out a song. You know he had Let it Burn Confessions Part Two, and he had Good, good. So if y'all have been keeping on track, I used right, because you, I used the tension. I used the tension of being an older brother to a little sister who want to complain about bull schnike and how that little thing can affect a relationship that I am trying to partake with said individual. Or vice versa. What, what? Vice versa and how? Sometimes, when you think about spinning the block or that, good good, you have to take a step back and you'd be like is it worth it to do all the work again?
Speaker 2:I feel like you're talking. Did you say you was talking in circles or roundabout way? It was a roundabout way Because I feel like you. You know how when people tell a story but they don't want to give you all the context to the story. But I feel like you just told like three different things, so let's figure out how to get them.
Speaker 1:Nope, I told one thing I said. I started it off with an anecdote. An adult is yummy is being very picky about something that is very trivial, hmm, interesting. Now the second part of the anecdote is what does the anecdote mean? If I am trying to get in said relationship with somebody and it doesn't work out and I'm maybe begrudging or feel a type of way about that, I now have to go through that process of reintroducing this person into my most sacred and dynamic relationships, being my family, because we parted ways.
Speaker 2:Wait, so you saying that somebody that you dated in the past is trying to spin a block on you, or you're trying to spin a block on somebody that you dated?
Speaker 1:That's what we're talking about. Okay, you know I don't believe in spending the block, you know this Okay. But today, inevitably, we talking about spending the block, and I'm just talking, I was just giving a hypothetical you know, because not really a hypothetical Yummy has made her opinion very well known in my own love life. Actually, everybody has made their opinion known in my own love life. The only one who doesn't have an opinion sometimes is my damn self. Yeah, crazy.
Speaker 2:Well.
Speaker 1:Who would have known?
Speaker 2:that out of the-. So that's the thing. So you try to make it seem like, oh, I'm the one that is being persecuted or I'm the one that is doing the persecution, but your other brother is the main one. Like, I learned that from him. I learned that from him. He has something to say about every. Okay, Nah, I'm lying.
Speaker 1:Nah, nah, nah, nah. I'm lying, so I'm lying. I don't know if I'll ever find a perfect woman with these two motherfuckers, but Chumbo you can be close, we give it to college. I don't think anybody is perfect.
Speaker 2:I don't think that I'm perfect, so why would I feel like you're gonna find somebody who is perfect?
Speaker 1:The way you intend it, y'all Okay. So let's just say you know, we-.
Speaker 2:So what's the episode today? What are we talking about?
Speaker 1:It's. The episode is yummy. You have the mill in the note. Yeah, Is this good, good, Sure, what else would it be if I just used that?
Speaker 2:Okay, so we're talking about the song ushering.
Speaker 1:The song is saying like I know that we didn't make it till forever.
Speaker 2:Yes, Probably eight, in fact the day going back together, yes, but that don't mean that we can that we can It'd be the we ain't good, good, good, but we still good, Okay. So I really was trying to give you the clip notes, Like I was feeding you the lyrics, Like I was the assistant to that.
Speaker 1:And I don't memorize lyrics.
Speaker 2:We know that already, so I don't even know why you started singing with me. Because-.
Speaker 1:Because I can't. It's part of the R&B thug term.
Speaker 2:But, chumbo, I said it again, we are talking about A lot of us today Booty, booty, booty, booty, rocking everywhere.
Speaker 1:We are talking about the Spinning the block, spinning the block. But why are we talking about spinning the block? Well, if you listened to Great Start, which was our last episode, first episode of 2024. Ooh, yemi had this idea of the U-turn.
Speaker 2:I said that.
Speaker 1:Yes, you did. Okay, U-turn, whatever the fuck she said the why the?
Speaker 2:why turn the three point turn?
Speaker 1:So let's just start off with what the hell is any of those things? Right, you can start off with whatever one you would like to explain.
Speaker 2:I mean, I really can't remember what I said even though it was last week, but I feel like for me, spinning the block U-turn, three point turn, really, just for me, I feel like if y'all were never in a committed relationship before and y'all were just like in this situation, ship dating, kicking, all these things that really don't make any sense to me, to me personally, I mean, yeah, but what's the difference between like dating, talking to somebody, like exclusively dating, you know, type shit? Like if you never defined the relationship and it was like we're committed to each other and each other, only Like, if no one asked can you be my girlfriend? Can you? Like you would never ask that Like.
Speaker 2:I feel like you have the opportunity to spin the block, but when you do this time around, you need to be very intentional and you need to say, like, what it is and what it's not. So if you never had that pre-conversation, yes, you can spin the block. If it comes to the point to where y'all reconnect and y'all define the relationship and it's set in stone that we are together, we're only talking to each other. Unless you're Polly, that's your business. But like, if that becomes the case, then there's no spinning the block Before that? For sure, because we were just like in this, like purgatory, like in between gray area. Now we're defining it, we're saying what it is. There's a commitment attached to this, there's loyalty attached to this.
Speaker 1:Once you cross that, I don't know if there's any going back after that. I don't think there is no gray area, though I think it's a miscommunication. I think the gray area is because people don't have the conversation. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Yeah, people be having like different intentions when they start dating, when they are dating, and I feel like nobody ever really wants to be clear or Guys, I'm very clear, well, okay, you are. But I feel like, for the majority, I feel like and speaking for myself, I feel like there was a situation where, like it wasn't really clear or it wasn't really direct, because, like you wanna keep fucking with somebody, but like that might not be what they want. You know what I mean. Like y'all need to be on the same accord and I just feel like dating nowadays is kind of just like. Like everybody has this like complex of like ego where they don't wanna be there's trauma, yeah, trauma, and I feel like in anything like if you're being held back by your trauma or you're allowing your trauma to define you.
Speaker 1:Which the majority of people do.
Speaker 2:Then you're not getting anywhere. I feel like you have to fully lean in and fully commit, because that's the only way to see like whatever the outcome is gonna be Right. Sure, but my question is- Let me look, let me pull up the lyrics to see what else he was talking about in the song.
Speaker 1:But my question is what the hell is a U-turn, what the hell is a three point turn, what the hell is a Y?
Speaker 2:A U-turn is when you go in a U, so you start at one point and you turn back around. A three point turn is where you start at one side, you go to the other side and then you reverse back. It's just different ways of going backwards.
Speaker 1:So basically you're saying a U-turn is when Help me if I'm confused A three point turn, I understand, because you're saying you're going to another destination.
Speaker 2:I'm not speaking metaphorically, I'm speaking direct.
Speaker 1:A U turn is when you go turn around in a U, but you use those terms Like I said I don't remember what I said.
Speaker 2:I don't even remember what I said 20 minutes ago. You remember what I said last week or the last time we recorded?
Speaker 1:That's why we call a call back. But Shumbo, I mean I agree with you, but I guess I agree with you.
Speaker 2:You tell me what I said, remind me.
Speaker 1:I agree with you to the extent as simple as this.
Speaker 2:But I mean, I feel like if you good good, you good good with the person that you dating I'm sorry, go ahead, because I'm looking at the lyrics right now. We'll interpret these after you finish your point.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all I was going to say is that I think if you're clearing your communication, at the end of the day people are inevitably going to fill away, based on how everything plays out. Me, I try to make everything super easy. I have a rule that if we're not exclusive or if I'm not committed to you, then I usually leave it on the other party to end it, and then I keep moving about my business, just because at that point, what does it do to me if we just kicking it? You know what I'm saying. I'm not really vested and I'm not really wasting time. It might suck that it ended, but at the end of the day, oh well, you know what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying and that's the way.
Speaker 2:That's how you feel, like, if you actually like somebody, are you like oh well, that it ended Like yes, okay.
Speaker 1:Not in a. So I'm saying that in a matter of fact way. But I'm saying that in a way that, like, yeah, I don't be chasing nobody, If we cut it, we cut it. I don't pay attention today live.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I move on, but if we see each other, it's hi, hello, I hope you're having a wonderful life and I really do hope that honestly. I hope that any person that I've been with romantically, that they are having the best time of their life and they're finding whatever brings them joy. But that's also because I understand that like and I got a reminder of this in 2023, but nobody is really yours. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So, like that's what the people who be Pauly be saying, that's why they be Pauly, because they, like I mean at the end of the day, like, yeah, everybody they Pauly, because they can.
Speaker 1:they can accept being in a relationship with multiple people. Me, that statement just means that, like, unless somebody is choosing to be with me, then I don't have to choose to be with them and that's just reciprocation. That's why I'm like it is what it is.
Speaker 2:If you reciprocate to me that you don't want to mess with me, then at the end of the day, I'm not going to mess with you For sure, like I would never beg nobody to be in a relationship with me, especially since I know that I have all of these amazing, amazing qualities about myself and anybody would be lucky to be in a relationship with me. That's no shade, I'm not saying that. Like you know, I'm not. Also let me not try to. Yes, anybody would be lucky to be in a relationship with me. I was trying to be. I was trying to, you know, be PC and like not be like big headed, but like for real. Like you know, I feel like this is the year of like talking your shit and being in your shit and like owning your shit and not being, like you know, because why not?
Speaker 1:I mean I'm highly flawed, but yes, I know I'm a pretty good catch. Yes, I'm.
Speaker 2:I have very flawed, like when you leave your stuff around and say that if I move it, so are you to the floor. I never said I was not flawed, all right, but I'm just saying that, yes, you are, I want you to. Did you, did you threaten violence? Excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, no, no, no, I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. I'm not muted. If he no, he said, if you continue to do what you're doing with my jackets his jacket he's going to put his hands on me. Is that what I said? Yes, you, you, you're 29 years old. You say you was going to threaten me and put your hands on me?
Speaker 1:29 year old, because this is why context is key.
Speaker 2:It don't matter what the situation is, If you go, if you say I'm going to put my hands on you.
Speaker 1:Context is key.
Speaker 2:If you think about spending the black on Daisy. Just know context is key will threaten you with violence.
Speaker 1:Sexist key Younger sibling. All I did was put my jacket on the back seat of a chair and because Yemi is so fixated, this is my workspace, when really the majority of the time should he be laid up in the bed almost 95% of the time.
Speaker 2:Why would you say that you don't know who is listening to this podcast?
Speaker 1:That doesn't mean you're not doing your work.
Speaker 2:I was about to say.
Speaker 1:That doesn't mean you do, but you do your work in a bed, unless you have to be in a meeting Now.
Speaker 2:I don't know where you're getting that from Now.
Speaker 1:Now, now to take my jacket that you may be in that chair for 10% of your week and to throw it on the floor. Y'all tell me what y'all going to do you know and if, but I have asked.
Speaker 2:I have asked numerous of times.
Speaker 1:If somebody is not hearing you. If somebody is not hearing you, Anybody that know me know I got hella jackets. That is the one staple I got. I got like 30 jackets. The reason why is because I get cold At the end of the day. You could never have enough jackets. Y'all been outside lately. If you from Chicago, it's like negative 22 degrees outside, you need jackets.
Speaker 2:That motherfucker is not real.
Speaker 1:So if you telling me at the end of the day, every jacket I have just say fuck it.
Speaker 1:Yeah me does this thing where she likes to say fuck me, but then she don't be like, no, it's not really fucked you, but it is fucked me, right? Y'all see what I'm saying. You can't throw somebody's property on the ground and then be like, oh my bad, but you using my space. If you did that in the streets somebody would be fighting. But because Yemi knows I'm her older brother and all I can do is talk, she be really pushing it, she be taking. It's not a mile with Yemi, it's a motherfucking. What is bigger than a mile people? What is bigger than a mile Anybody?
Speaker 2:I don't know what he talking about. Let him carry on.
Speaker 1:Yemi take an itch and she turn that itch to a whole fucking country. Y'all don't know what it's like living in this household with her.
Speaker 2:It's terrible because you get free meals, you get free soap, you get what else? You get free seasoning.
Speaker 1:Yemi, you get a whole financial advisor for free. People pay thousands of dollars a year for that. The game I'm giving y'all, the game I give her, is not universal. I give her the tricks of the trade and she trying to act like I can't. I'm making you a couple thousand dollars a month or a year and you want to talk about some one or two meals that I eat. See, I'll tell y'all something man, your family is be the one that be trying you the most. Okay, yes, but let's get back.
Speaker 2:Yes, anybody close to you, really anybody that you allow into your inner circle, to your inner peace, be the ones that will do you the dirtiest, because you expected from somebody not saying that I do digi dirty, I'm just you know, and I'm not saying that anybody else is doing me dirty, I'm just saying, like, the people who are the closest to you have the potential to do you.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Damage because you have allowed them to be close to you. Because if somebody who's not close to you does something to you like you expect that, like you don't know me, no loyalty. But the people who are closest to you have the who are in close proximity to you have the ability to affect you the most, but that's because your perception of them changes.
Speaker 1:That's why because they're so close to you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I wouldn't give a fuck if anybody else put their jacket on my chair, but you know that I work there. Sort of now don't be trying to shave me sort of you work.
Speaker 1:I mean, you just don't work in that chair. What do you work from home? It's a beautiful thing. You get to do exactly what I just said. Now, what was I going? Let's get back to what I was talking about right spinning the block.
Speaker 2:That's what we're talking about In El block. Should I read the lyrics to the song?
Speaker 1:I was going to ask you first.
Speaker 2:We should start Go ahead.
Speaker 1:Do you believe in spinning the block?
Speaker 2:Yes, I've already said that I do, but I said that it's contingent. I agree with you.
Speaker 1:I would I spend a block and anybody. While I've only been in one committed relationship, I would not spend a block on shorty. That's not a shit girl, fuck you.
Speaker 2:Sorry, but fuck you.
Speaker 1:That's not what I said. I just said no, don't, don't, don't, don't dramatize what I said. That's not not even within you. But let's digest, go ahead and let's read the lyrics, and then we can analyze.
Speaker 2:Right Discuss. Okay, we ain't good, good, but we still good. The parts you know. Please join in with me. Okay, we ain't good, good, but we still good. I hate that we didn't make it to forever, probably get back together. But that don't mean that I can't wish you better. We ain't good good, but we still good Period. Okay, I was just feeling about it. I was just feeling about it Okay.
Speaker 1:So far. We is good. Good, but we still good. We not getting back together? Yeah, we probably not getting back together.
Speaker 2:I don't mean that I don't wish you better, but that don't mean I don't wish you right there, I don't wish you bad, but I don't wish you better than me, so do you actually see exactly where I was getting.
Speaker 1:I feel like a lot of y'all's pay. At times I be talking like I am holier than now.
Speaker 1:But, if you catch me. So I have a timeframe. Usually, if you catch me in that first one to three months after I've parted ways with somebody, I'm a little petty, little petty, you know, month three, four or four, five, six, whatever Good riddance you, we have fun. I have a memory memory, blah, blah, blah. But that first three, the first one to three months, petty, I don't care about this person, I don't want to see this person.
Speaker 2:So come and collect your teens. Come and collect your stuff.
Speaker 1:Come collect your things, and I'm very much so, I'm very much so a, b like that, because for me, the moment we part ways, I don't want to. I don't want to see anything. Truthfully, the whole going ghost thing that's what I do after I cut people, you know, or after someone has cut me. Let me not act like it. Don't go both ways. It's not a bitter thing for me. I feel like if y'all decide that it did not work or something came up or the timing wasn't right, why are we got to do all this co-mingling? I've never been somebody who likes to co-mingle. I feel like at times it makes things very confusing.
Speaker 2:I tend to. I don't think right away Like I think you can. If you feel like you, you know, like if you're actually friends with the person I don't know, I feel like I haven't really been friends with anyone before we started dating, so, like it's, it's easier to just like cut ties, but like if y'all friends, y'all get along, you just realize that you can't be in a romantic relationship with each other. Why not? Why not co-mingle? I do that in the first three months?
Speaker 2:No, like I got to get over you first for show.
Speaker 1:I feel like co-mingling is something you do after y'all, like, have stopped talking to each other for like six to seven months, maybe even a year.
Speaker 1:See, I'm a big advocate after, like, you cut it with somebody Unless the chemistry was really there and like. And I have another question to ask you. Yeah, because I've been having this question asked to me more and more and I feel like the answer is bullshit. But I'll just say at this, very direct you got to give it time. You got to really forget about what that person felt like, what that person was to be around, all the things that made you like fall for that person before you be like, okay, let's be friends, ish, co-mingle or whatever, if you choose to have that person back in your life. Me I am very much like. If we decided to cut it, you might get a happy birthday text, random call out of nowhere, but I'm never going to be like, so like, do you ever think about us? Eww Cups of the Rose? Like I'm not.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm not doing. No, I'm not doing. No drunk calls, no drunk texts.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm not liking your story. I'm not doing anything. Honestly, you'll be a blip for both of us. Like, oh, I was in relation with this person. I don't remember that time. Y'all heard me last week.
Speaker 2:If you was messing with me in 2023 and 2023, you don't know what you're talking about. You're a whole new person.
Speaker 1:It's like tech of it. It's like tax evasion. I ain't make no money. I didn't spend that money. Right, I didn't spend that money.
Speaker 2:I don't know where any of that stuff came from.
Speaker 1:So my question, Yemi, is when people say anybody that you've tried to pursue romantic or anybody who's tried to pursue you romantically, when they tell you that it's important for me to be friends with my partner, do?
Speaker 2:you really believe that.
Speaker 2:Do I feel anybody I did? Yeah, I feel like I'm outside of it just being romantic Like I have to want to. I have to feel like, well, I don't know. Yeah, I need to like you, like I don't need to like, like I need to like you because I feel like I like all my friends Right, like I like all my friends, I love them as well, like friendly. But if I don't have that with you, there's no way it could go further. That's why I don't be doing that Like cutesy, kiki, holding hands with my friends, kissing my friends, you know, just like very platonic.
Speaker 1:That's weird, I don't do that?
Speaker 2:I don't do that because that could turn into like maybe this could go.
Speaker 1:And I've had girlfriends who have had that conversation with me. They're like oh what type of friends are we?
Speaker 2:I said, just friends, just like we friends yeah.
Speaker 1:They're like oh, are we the smooching friends, the cuddling friends.
Speaker 2:I said, I said no, my first got ulterior motives with you.
Speaker 1:I said, we are just friends.
Speaker 2:No more. Focus got ulterior motives.
Speaker 1:I've had to become very serious and intentional by saying this specifically to women If you want friendships out of me, that's all you're going to get. So the level of friend I would consider myself I'm a decent friend. You know what I'm saying. I engage, I try to check up, I try to do all those things, but if you want friendship, that's all you're going to get.
Speaker 1:So if you don't hear from me for months on end, or if we talk every week, or if we talk once a year. That's the friendship. That's the friendship. That's the friendship. But I was going to say that your ascertaination just saying words at this point.
Speaker 1:I was about to say what I feel like when people say that I need to be friends with my person or my partner. I feel like I've gone to the point where I'm like lie, lie to me some more. I feel like that's a way for somebody to say, even if we don't end up together, what did I just say? We probably ain't good, we ain't probably lasted for forever, but I could still wish you better.
Speaker 2:Right, we ain't good good, but we still good.
Speaker 1:That's just a way for you to stay in my life. I don't want that. I don't want that. I don't want that.
Speaker 2:So you think this is like, in a way, he's saying yes, the relationship is whatever, but we're good. I don't think he we could continue on. But I don't think that he's saying oh yeah, we could spend a block. I think he's literally just admitting that we didn't. We might have not been all right with for each other, but it's good, it's no pressure, we ended on good terms.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with that? It's so fast, and this is why I said trauma, because so many people are afraid to get their heart broken Anytime somebody comes in their life. They feel like they have to hold on to them. But the thing about life is that you was always supposed to meet a bunch of people on the way until you met your person, so why are you so fixated on keeping this person in your life If that person want to go? Oh yeah, oh yeah show them the door.
Speaker 2:Show them the door, turn up, go with the. I can kick you with the good law, split you.
Speaker 1:Exactly Next time, sir.
Speaker 2:Next time, sir. Yeah, I realize that I can't be your lover. Let's just be honest with each other. I'll be happy for you when you find another. We ain't good good, but we still good, stop.
Speaker 1:This is my favorite part of the song. This and 21 Savage he said. Repeat it for me one more time.
Speaker 2:The part that you're probably fixated on is let's be honest with each other. I'll be happy if you find another. We ain't good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, one of the biggest things and hurdles in my life is I used to feel bad for not ending relationships sooner, relationships, situations, ships sooner than anticipated, because I didn't want to be the person that and this was very, very mature, I mean, I mean very innocent, naive, gullible, whatever you want to say of myself I didn't want to be this person's Mr Right and then me not feel that and I have to say, hey, I don't think you're the one for me. But if the other person did it, I could be like okay, cool, I understand.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:I'll be happy when you find another. You know what I'm saying I feel opposite.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to be happy to be quite I mean, it's on how the relationship ended, but I feel like that's like that's that petty part right. Like I feel like I'll be happy if you find another. But, yes, I'll be happy if you find another, but I mean, like I said, are they going to be better than me? I don't know. They may be better than me for you, and that's the difference. Like you know how people be, like oh, I see who they did and that's a rebound or that's like a down. You know, like you know how girls be like that's stuff that be saying. But I just feel like I don't know. Like, yeah, some, some people just don't don't mix and match with each other, but at the end of the day, like me. Question.
Speaker 1:Moving on next Stand up.
Speaker 2:Who knew it'd be like this. Usually my ex's turn to enemies, but this is different because we don't got, because we done, we done got closer now that you ain't with me. All that love that we had ain't nowhere, no, ain't no way. We don't forget that. And your family love me like I'm family, excuse me, you know where you stand with me. So when they asked, tell them right one, right place, wrong time, can't say we didn't try, but we always been a real one, but you always been a real one even though we ain't together. It was real love and baby, it's still love. And then the chorus I hate that we didn't make it to forever. I don't know that sounds like that sounds like there's still potential, like your family.
Speaker 1:That's a little bit toxic. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I don't know. I don't know about this song, no more than now that I listen to the lyrics. I thought it was more so like a we good on good terms, but it's more like a we good, like there is potential for us to maybe down the line get back together. Next point right, because you know so are you ever really done with somebody when I?
Speaker 1:think I think there are certain individuals that you be willing to spend a block for, so like I think, if we're being honest with ourselves, there is certain people, that one. They met us at the wrong time, but in the time that we shared it was good. It was good. It could have been good, bad, but there was a lot of things that had you yearning for what could be, and I think it not enough. People like to acknowledge. I know men don't like to acknowledge that at all. I think women are a little bit more versed, but they just not. They're a little more prideful and they don't ever want to.
Speaker 1:I don't know I feel like women would be like nah, if that man never came correct again, I'll drop what, I'll drop whatever, thanks, but I feel like that's so. I feel like that type of man is so few and far between. But I do feel like women are more inclined and let me not speak for y'all, but if y'all have a, if y'all have someone that was like nah, I would really want him to spend a block. Y'all gonna let us win the block, why not? We saw with Isa. Oh right, we saw with Isa.
Speaker 2:Right, I forgot about that.
Speaker 1:But hey, y'all be thinking I'll be crazy, but I hope time I forgot about that.
Speaker 2:But also he came back with a kid. I'm not. You can't spend a block on me and have children.
Speaker 1:That's life For them. That's life and if the more you get the closer, you get to 30.
Speaker 2:I would assume there's less people out there that are yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, but Shambu, I think, I think people need to be real.
Speaker 2:I mean, there might be a couple, maybe one, but again, I'm not one of those people that denies love like something that is just so, whatever. It is like somebody could do you wrong. Not do you wrong, because I don't think they would do you wrong if they actually loved you, but, like the situation, just something happened and it was like there's, we just need a break, yeah.
Speaker 1:Like a Saturn return.
Speaker 2:Yeah. You know, yeah, that's a long time, though, like 27 to 32 is a long time.
Speaker 1:That's it. So if somebody thugs it through your Saturn return for five years.
Speaker 2:Well, I would now if y'all are still in each other's lives, like if it's like me today, somebody for five years and not marry them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 2:Y'all, y'all, y'all wild for that Y'all are wild.
Speaker 1:A lot of people who do that. That's not saying any y'all are wild for that. Weddings are expensive. Don't say that I mean you live in a whole culture.
Speaker 2:Well then you wait to get engaged with the fuck, like if we're just, if we're just boyfriend, girlfriend for five years.
Speaker 1:No, no, don't listen to her.
Speaker 2:No, yeah, don't, don't listen to me, y'all get engaged.
Speaker 1:No, no Broke, no, definitely.
Speaker 2:But also feel like, yeah, I mean it's, everybody's life is different. But I just feel like for me, if we're together for five years and I don't have a ring, and I do end up getting a ring, and we're like if we, it's the numbers game right, but also a society. So don't, don't listen to me.
Speaker 1:Go to the courthouse. Yeah, don't listen to me. Have a big party. Yeah, say for the party. Don't, don't listen to me, because clearly there is benefits to being married.
Speaker 2:Obviously. We all know that can for sure in our society. But you ain't got to be married.
Speaker 1:No, let me hey, this is a new society. You could be. You could be Polly, you could be what's it on.
Speaker 2:You can't be, you can't be monogamous. Yeah, you can't be like that with me.
Speaker 1:Ethically monogamous. That was. That was a new one. What's that it's a you watch what's the show. That mean you sex education ethically monogamous. Yeah, sex education.
Speaker 2:They brought that up, it was all individuals involved in the relationship are aware of and agree to the terms of the relationship and that there is no description or description. This is the deception or deception, or these or okay.
Speaker 1:I'm not. I'm not.
Speaker 2:I'm not, I'm looking at that, you look at that. I'm like what do you want me to do?
Speaker 1:I'm over here.
Speaker 2:Look at that, you don't worry, phonics, phonics anyway. So Both partners are free to express their needs and desires and to make informed decisions about the relationship.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So basically it's a social contract where if you say you could date other people, as long as that's been communicated, you don't have to even check in with the other person. You could just be like, oh yeah, I'm dating this person, but I'm ethically y'all new generation, y'all coming up with this?
Speaker 2:I'm up, please. I'm old school. Like, do you like me? Yes, I know. Like I'm old school. Circle, circle one, Circle one. I was thinking, do you have the note in the class?
Speaker 1:Yes, I'm old school, you know, I was thinking about one of the Nali Boob films that mom was watching with the kids in the classroom.
Speaker 2:I'm old school, I'm old school, I'm old school. Oh my god, please, you ain't said nothing but a word right there, please et joe. Don't confuse me with all this. You know, like, if you like me, just let me know and let it be. I'm the only one you like. That's it for me, that's all for me.
Speaker 1:I can do it, but all right, next time let's go through it.
Speaker 2:Uh-oh, ok, so I'm having Autumn Plans you Made. I think this is 21 Savage Part Autumn Plans you Made for me to be your Mrs. Oh wait, hold on, for me to be your Mrs, that must be Summer.
Speaker 1:This isn't the song.
Speaker 2:No, summer, summer. So all the plans you made for me to be your Mrs, all the stacks that you done spent on me at Linux oh yeah, this is Summer, it don't go forgotten, but we're happier part than locked in. No smoke with me, I promise, boy, I don't do drama. I didn't work, it didn't work, but I hope you find another. I wish you peace. I wish you good sex and good sleep. Find the girl of your dreams, because I sleep well at night, knowing that this ain't meant to be right. One right place, wrong time Can't say we didn't try. All good things come to an end, so let's just learn the lessons and find love again. So let's find love again.
Speaker 1:One I'm going to say this Summer, Walker Eight Shorty got a pant.
Speaker 2:She has an amazing pant. Like sometimes, I just don't want her to ever be happy because I want the music to stay good. But also, if she came up with an album that was a love album, I would live for that too, it would be phenomenal.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I want her to be in love again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure, the other side of all this hurt is but it is called rhythm. It's called rhythm in blues, like it's not supposed to be music that is supposed to uplift you. If it was that, it would be pop. This is like pain music, right, this is where it originated from. Was black people talking about their struggles and just putting it behind song to make it what it is now?
Speaker 1:But yeah, I would fully lean into a Summer Walker album with her being happy, but I do like the depression as well, or we could just talk about if she had an album that focused on moments in time where she felt so loved. That would be a beautiful album.
Speaker 2:She does have songs like that. There are songs on her projects that are like the first over it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, over it. Yeah, yeah, the first over it were Body and Potential. No, that album actually was like it was very good, it was a. It wasn't like a depressed album, that was more like me and London or whatever.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because she did have some songs on there that were like the reason why I say that is that's why people love Cleo, so she's all about this healing journey and all that stuff.
Speaker 2:Oh, really Right, I don't listen to her.
Speaker 1:Or they'll listen to, like Snow Allegra, and she'll talk about, although these relationships broke, all these relationships were that ended poorly. She talks about how she learned to love and all the moments of love. That's the thing that we always forget. We always get so bitter about relationships and until you realize, like y'all were so close, that y'all shared some very special moments, I don't care how short lived it was. I'm going to be honest with you. I know sometimes there's been and y'all don't want to say it because y'all in some three, four, five, six year relationships, but the person you was dating for four months or for a season showed you more love, more everything than you dealing with now.
Speaker 1:But, you chose that life and the only reason why I could say that circle back. What did someone walk and say I wish you peace.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I wish you good sex and sleep.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I wish you you find the woman of your dreams. That's a heel woman. Yeah, that's a heel woman. Even though she said right person, right wrong place, right wrong time. Yeah, even though she said she could admit, damn, you might have been the one. Yeah, in fact, you probably was the one, but the fact of the matter is I don't ever feel like that about somebody that you dated with me.
Speaker 2:Like, don't ever feel like if you date me, you need to be over all the bitches that you was with before me, because I don't, ever, I don't, I don't care if it's mature of you or not. You need to be like fuck that bitch, I don't. I wish her the worst time ever. I hope that bitch eat glass on accident, like that's. I mean, of course I don't really want that, but I just that's just how I want you to feel, not because I want you better, but because I want you. Why would you move on?
Speaker 1:I want you moved on what the person that's like. Yeah, I had a wonderful time with that person but honestly, that person doesn't hold a Because this song to me gives like I might spin the block to me.
Speaker 2:Honestly, now that I read the lyrics talking about. Yes, but some, some Not with me. This is not my song. I didn't write the words to the song. We just talking about it.
Speaker 1:You're right. You're right, but you see, what I'm saying matured so that four to six months after I get over the person, yeah, let's, let's be friends. Let's be friends.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Holla at me. Yeah, what you need, ok, oh, blah, blah, blah blah, you got to do.
Speaker 2:But not like an everyday thing. Also, yeah, don't bring me around. Yo the new person that's your day.
Speaker 1:Can just communicate it. Yeah, if you if we are the same environment and you know it's a planned thing.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Communication is key because we all don't want to look stupid, it's look stupid. Yeah, just if you ever love me and you ever really gave a fuck about me, never have me in a situation with a stupid.
Speaker 1:Say that? Just say that, because we don't ever have to fuck with each other. But, like summer said, I'm just going to wish you good peace, yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm just going to sleep. Honestly, I think that's the best thing that you can do. That's really how you show the girl or somebody Don't do what I said. Definitely don't do what I said. I was just joking.
Speaker 1:No, that was funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Next, let's just get to the 21 part.
Speaker 2:That's the only, that's the only I thought that was the end of the song. He had his own perspective. That's not the end of the song, it's more.
Speaker 1:Yes, there's more.
Speaker 2:Hold on. I thought summer was the end of it.
Speaker 1:Oh it's a long ass song, that's why I say you got to get to the 21.
Speaker 2:21. Oh, yeah, ok, he does have his own part. We ain't good. No matter who you were, I want to see you happy or God, it didn't work out, but that don't mean you should attack me 21. 21. We enjoy the five star meals, but you was with me for Zach Speaks facts holding me down.
Speaker 2:From the start, I used to be broke. I was really 21. I hate that we didn't tie the knot, but shit that. That's how it goes on. God. You always will say that I might blow up. 21, got rich and I paid for your lipo 21. I know the person you is. Yeah, that's why I still want to be friends on God. If you want to open up a salon, I still help pay for the wigs straight up and I help with the lease on God. You know I ain't never been cheap. 21 relationships don't always last, but let's not turn it into be 21. I come through from time to time and have you grabbing them sheets, that's if you want to. Ok, I'm just playing girl. Stop smacking your tweet. 21, 21. I hate that we didn't make it food forever, probably, and get it back together, but that don't mean I can't wish you better. We ain't good. Good, but we still good.
Speaker 1:OK, let's. That's OK. Out of all of the 21 is probably the only one that might not spend a block or that he might. Well, I guess, he said.
Speaker 2:he said, if you want, I could still come and smack, grab and from time I come through from time to time and have you grabbing them sheets, that's if you want to. I'm just playing, girls, Stop smacking your teeth. 2121. So no, he's not just playing. Well, she ain't playing either. She's back in her teeth, so OK. So they, all three of them, give different perspectives to a breakup in a relationship. Right, Like, what's the next steps? Yes, like OK, there's potential for us to like you know ever now. And then like fuck. One is like no, like mature me, you know you're good, I'm good. The other one is like your family still fucks with me.
Speaker 2:So there's you know we're still connected in some way, but saying that you go find your ex's business is kind of crazy.
Speaker 2:I don't know, because I feel like actually no, if I fuck with you, yeah, I want you to eat. I want you to eat, yeah, and I know I'm still making some money off it too because I'm going to be like an investor for sure, like, follow your dreams, and if I can help you in any way, if you were, if you were with me when I was in Zach's piece, for sure we're going to be together now that we didn't know.
Speaker 1:You have a. That's a. That's a. That's a special place. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So 21 is talking about that person who really sell you through your most emotional, so can you and it's like when people will be like, oh yeah, the baby daddy, the first baby daddy like they will always have a connection, they will always have a relationship. Yeah, I can't be nobody step, my mom not going to hold you.
Speaker 1:But at the end of the day this is why I always say this whoever was with you shooting the gym. Yeah and I'm saying this for L doesn't matter what your gym is, I don't care if it's school, I don't care if it's unemployment, I don't care if it's a mental illness, I don't care if it's you trying to make a pivot in your life.
Speaker 1:Whatever it is you, whoever was with you shooting in that gym, if it didn't work out, you will always hold a flame for that person. Because what, when you didn't have a North Star? Guess what that person was to you.
Speaker 2:That was the moon.
Speaker 1:They was the moon, that was the moon, they was the moon, they was it all. So I mean I'm fully support. If any shorty I have a mess with, she got a business, I'm going to put bread on it, but that's just me, because I'm like, at the end of the day, what's her? It don't mean nothing.
Speaker 2:Nothing.
Speaker 1:It means nothing at all for me to do business with you At the end of the day. One that's another black woman. I'm helping you know, what I'm saying. See, now I can say that that's another black woman. I'm helping. We ain't good good, but we still good To like what is the most thoughtful thing you could do to somebody.
Speaker 2:Invest in them. Invest in them, yeah, invest in them.
Speaker 1:Regardless.
Speaker 2:I don't have to be financial either. It could just be like whatever they see fit, but like, yeah, investing in them, giving a fuck about what they got going on outside of you, outside of like your relationship with them, like actually caring about people, is probably the most important thing, exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's true. At the end of the day, if you were, that person was good, you still probably going to be able to get that little for it off, and if it is, she go for it. Or if you go for it, you know, don't be doing that shit.
Speaker 2:Okay, sorry, see, see, that's that's, that's, that's true. Yeah, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, like qualifications we said for spinning the block is it has to be a committed relationship.
Speaker 2:It can't be, though. It cannot be for spinning the block, like you had to have not been committed, because now the dynamic is different, now it's like we were in a relationship. It depends also depends on what happened, like, did you lose your job and you just let yourself go? Did you cheat on me? Did you, you know, have a secret baby that I did not know about? Have you been keeping secrets from me and they come, like you know? So for everybody, I feel like everything is individualistic. We all know what's, we all know what's dead ass wrong, but we there is a great area, there is wiggle room.
Speaker 1:How long? How long should you wait to spend the block?
Speaker 2:How long should you wait to spend the block? I feel like there does need to be some time that past. Like I feel like we need to sit with ourselves or you need to sit with whoever else. You decided you needed to do whatever. But again, everything is situational. That's why I feel like relationships is just one of those things that you just have to go through. You just got to do it. You just have to do it because, I mean, every situation is different, but we all know that, like there are some, there are some definite knows, like cheating is a definite know, I'm not spending the block for cheating, you're not.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I wouldn't either. That's hard, that's a hard line for me to say that like there's no way.
Speaker 2:We would still be good. Good if you did that on me.
Speaker 1:We could still be good. We just I would not, I would not, I would just not fight with you. Yeah, yeah, that's, that's simply as.
Speaker 2:I foot with you, but that was that Shout out to that section. Let's move on. Okay, you know what the next two sections are that I do, because I do all the work for them.
Speaker 1:The little that you do. Yes, I'll give it to you, Shorty you better hope we still good.
Speaker 2:Good, you'd be disrespecting me.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I do that. I think it might be the other way around, but okay younger sibling. We got you.
Speaker 2:They just stop saying that I'm the younger sibling. Does that make you feel better about yourself?
Speaker 1:It does make you feel better because you don't want nobody know your age.
Speaker 2:I don't give a fuck about that.
Speaker 1:I'm going to need you to read this.
Speaker 2:I'm actually. The tweet that I sent you was from the first of the year and it says drink in my cup came out in 2011 and still rise to this day. Why do you think I sent that to you? I got this drink in my cup.
Speaker 1:I feel like that's out. I feel like any function any function anywhere where black focus playing and that song, yeah, it's a hit. Also, I used to play that song online in high school, I think I used to.
Speaker 2:We was, we was Coco bands fans, that one in the other one he got. Now, girl, you know you got me, you know I got you too.
Speaker 1:Keep it true.
Speaker 2:The mother ate us. They be by me. You know I feel you. But, girl, I'm feeling you. Baby, I know you down me, things like about me and where you go, these, not a hose like, why should I shit about me? It's like I know you down me but, just to keep it true, I know you got the Baby. Lay it down, baby. Yeah, just because we like her co banks. That's why I sent it to you, very nostalgic. That's a very nostalgic time for us. So, yes, that's why I sent you on Twitter.
Speaker 2:But we was talking about this earlier. We're going to jump right into the ghetto intellectual. We was talking about this earlier because I was watching the show and it was this guy who we was trying to figure out who was, who was in the right, who's in the wrong. Two friends. One of the friends forgot the other friends birthday, didn't? I wish them a happy birthday. So the one friend blocked them and he was saying like I would have reached out to you, like I was trying to reach out to you to apologize for missing your birthday, but you blocked me and he was like no, you know I don't play that. You're my friend. You forgot my birthday. So the ghetto. Intellectual question for today is if you, as a friend, forget your friend's birthday, is there the retribution?
Speaker 1:I mean in hindsight, yes, because if you value this person to be your friend, you would, at least, within that weak time frame that is your birthday, that they would say some, right? If they don't, then it's like well, fuck me, dan, right? Nobody really cares about me, right?
Speaker 2:Well, I mean other people, just not your friend, right? That's why I said they missed a happy birthday.
Speaker 1:I give everybody me. I don't actually this. I'm a bad example because I actually don't care. But if you tell me happy birthday a week after my birthday, I'll be like thank you, I appreciate you, I love.
Speaker 2:I would say thank you too, but anybody who does that is not really like my friend for real, like people that are people that I actually not to say that I don't value all of the friendships that I have, but I feel like like if Daisy forgot to say what she would never, but like if he forgot to say happy birthday to me. Yes, I would feel some type of way, but like if somebody that, like I had an encounter with one time and we're like social media friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah me, stop hitting the mic.
Speaker 2:Whatever. So so, yeah, I just feel like it's honest. Everything is on a sliding scale. Yeah Well, you know that everything is on a science scale, but would you be blocking? Probably not.
Speaker 1:I don't block nobody yeah.
Speaker 2:What I block. I mean, I'm like I'm like somebody.
Speaker 2:I blocked a couple people for different reasons, but I feel like I I'm like really big on, like I won't block you, but I will unfollow you on social media If I feel like you're moving incorrect as it pertains to me and I feel like you have You're supposed to be someone who's who I have a different type of relationship with. That is further than surface. If I feel like you've wronged me, yeah, like, I'll unfollow you, I'll cut ties with you and like, if you figure it out or even give a fuck, we can have a conversation about it. But once I pee out, the energy is wrong. I move, I move on my own accord. You don't even have to worry about like because I peeped.
Speaker 2:Once I pee and you, if you don't say nothing, yes, I take the initiative to just move differently on my end, which means like I don't need to be following you, I don't need to be keeping up with what you're doing, we don't need to be in communication. But blocking, know, because I would always give you the opportunity, just like an X right, I would always give you the opportunity to come and reach out to me. So, no, I wouldn't block you, but yeah, I would, I would let it be known on my side that I see what you're doing and I see how you're moving. Maybe not directly, indirectly, because I'm passive, aggressive, but yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I know people. I know people who would change their whole number.
Speaker 2:Okay, my kind of petty.
Speaker 1:That's a different little petty. But yeah, I feel like it depends the dynamic of the friendship. But I am really, I am really an advocate that life be life.
Speaker 2:So like I really don't put but the thing was the blocking thing, like communicate with, like if you, I was, I was trying to reach out but you blocked me, which is the ghetto part, that's the ghetto intellectual part of it. Would you be on that? No, you wouldn't. We know you wouldn't.
Speaker 1:Me no I would move different if I felt some type of but if I got blocked, I feel like at that point it's up to you to figure out a way to contact me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and we'll probably never talk until we see each other in person, Right?
Speaker 1:and if you do that at a setting. But that's why I said when I thought about it, the dude was right. He was like, yeah, you can't be trying to apologize to me at the club. Like this is a conversation that we need to sit down and have, but I haven't been able to reach out to you because you blocked me.
Speaker 2:Well then well if you value the relationship enough, you could probably one today. Friend, like hey, tell them to unblock me, type shit.
Speaker 1:Or even at that party. You'd be like give me your information now. Yeah, unblock me and unblock me, and then we can, or I'll be like I'll really come to your house after this. And we'll talk it out. I'll lose sleep Like I'll drive to you blah, blah, blah types, because it was just an honest mistake because it was just. But you know, that's what I'm saying. We live in a generation where people don't value friendships, so for them, friendships is a diamond, and that's what he was saying.
Speaker 2:He was like I value my friendship, so for me, like saying that you're my friend and my birthday came and you did not say anything, made me feel some type of way, and he was just like you know.
Speaker 1:I don't remember what happened, but I'm sorry, but that's real, because he could have said I don't remember, or he could just not be ready to divulge what he was going through.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what was happening.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like people were getting like damn son, the world be moving without you.
Speaker 2:That's the fact. Like people's like I just be, so we'll talk about this.
Speaker 1:It's that super it and people's brains. They be thinking like oh my God, if a person doesn't, bro, go sit down.
Speaker 2:Nobody is really thinking about you for real. We're all living our own lives.
Speaker 1:I live by this statement. Nobody is checking for you, yeah. And then when you could realize that as people, that's why the social media, the social media shit, got y'all fucked up, because y'all think that, and I'm not saying y'all, I'm saying us In general.
Speaker 1:I've also fallen prey to it, but ain't nobody checking for us? Period, and that's, that's no shade. I'm sorry if you feel like you are entitled to have people all up in your business, but no, why you think celebrities are annoyed. They want to be just like us, just with the money.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Nobody is checking for us, nobody.
Speaker 2:But nobody. But that don't mean that it's not good Good. Thank you so much for listening to this episode, this week's episode. We appreciate y'all so much.
Speaker 1:Stop messing with the mic. Whatever we be out here we almost out here.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to wrap up there.
Speaker 1:I need y'all to complain about it. I need y'all to complain about it. Because, I'm the one with the mic and the headset in their ear, and she keep acting like Well, hopefully y'all don't listen to us in your ears.
Speaker 2:Hopefully, like this is something that you listen to while you do and other things.
Speaker 1:And it probably will be fixed in post, but still.
Speaker 2:Like at the gym, or negative five degrees outside. God damn.
Speaker 1:But, as Yemi was saying, thank you so much for listening to nothing but the G thing. I'm going to let you do this part On the outro, because I don't do the outro.
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Speaker 2:We love every brand.
Speaker 1:We do. And at the end of the day, whether you choose to spend a block or not, just remember it's good, good Y'all. Keep it lovely.