What really is “gentle parenting” when you have African parents?
What really is “gentle parenting” when you have African parents?
Because ain't nothing but a cheap bang baby to blow them jeans. So we crazy Death grow against the label that pays man Unfatable. So please don't try to fake this. But I'm back to the lecture at hand. Back to the lecture or legend at hand. So there was. I would classify myself as a very intergetic, very, very high energy, very action oriented, little to no thinking child, but who always was trying to practice the sport he loved, or the sports I loved, in a way.
Speaker 2:Now that I think about this, did we ever say that we was going to make this a Patreon exclusive? Or did we say one day, no?
Speaker 1:what will we be making a Patreon?
Speaker 2:exclusive story Because it's a good story. No, I feel like that's something we talked about, but either way, continue so how are we going to make this a? Patreon exclusive if we telling it right now. Yeah, I mean, I just feel like we had a conversation about it before, but I feel like this is fine.
Speaker 1:This is fine, but also we don't have anything in the vault right now.
Speaker 2:I mean no, no, no, that's fine.
Speaker 1:And why are you popping on the? Okay, well, anyways, back to where I was. Where was I? Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:I was a high energy right.
Speaker 1:Very short attention span, very active, always wanted to be outside type of kid. But one thing about me is, when I found a sport that I loved, I was going to practice it. Nah, stop, 24, 7, anywhere I could get it in. And at the age I will say about nine, ten is you know I was starting to fall in love with this sport called baseball. So much so that I don't know how I came into this bat, a wooden bat at that, because we only had a metal, was it?
Speaker 2:Oh it was a wooden bat. It was a wooden bat.
Speaker 1:You want to hit the mic because that's you two for two. Okay, I you popped in my mouth with because you did that, whatever thing, and you know I'm listening to the audio. And now you screaming on the mic.
Speaker 2:Am I.
Speaker 1:Anyways, it was a wooden bat and we still have the aluminum bat from back in the day.
Speaker 2:Do we?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's somewhere in that backyard or somewhere in the garage. But, shumbo, let me focus. I was a kid. I was trying to get, I was trying to get good at baseball. So I thought, naturally, to get my swing better. I got to learn how to swing a bat that is heavier than what I typically swing with when I'm in the games, when I'm at practice, because I want to get stronger and I wanted to have a faster swing. You know, make sense, right? You know, I was trying to be like those cats in the gym that be having a dumbbells and they be doing all the punching work. You know, you all know what I'm talking about. So they have faster hands. Or if you, if you, the real ones, know, if you are a track runner, you would take your dumbbells and you would be in a mirror practicing your run in stride with the dumbbells, so you could.
Speaker 2:I don't think you knew that at eight years, seven years, nine years, ten years, although.
Speaker 1:I was doing. I was doing it to get better.
Speaker 2:OK.
Speaker 1:And maybe I was ahead of my time.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But anyways, y'all know I did this. I did this thing where I would practice in the front of my house and I would just swing the bat. I was swinging the bat for literally like 30 minutes 10 hour Just swinging a bat and I would just be like cool, working on my, working on my approach, all these things. And I was, you know, I wasn't eight, yummy, because I wasn't playing baseball. I was playing baseball in third grade, third, third grade, so I was about nine or 10.
Speaker 2:Oh, wow.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:OK.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying it's a big difference. Yes, because I didn't play T ball, I went straight to fast pitch eight to nine is a big, is a big job. It's a big difference when you went from. Most people go T ball. Then they go to fast pitch or live pitch baseball. I started at live pitch baseball.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Exactly so. Anyways, I got this wooden bat that I could barely swing, but after about 20 minutes my body adjusted and I could swing. So now I'm swinging, I'm swinging, I'm swinging, and my mom and dad swinger, whatever. Yeah, my mom and dad had this, this really nice Toyota Ford runner.
Speaker 2:Nice yeah, the green joint.
Speaker 1:Yes, that was. It was nice before it became old Nice. It was actually my favorite car that they had actually. Really, I love driving in that Toyota for a runner, did you yeah?
Speaker 2:Why.
Speaker 1:I just, I just like I like the feeling of driving and a big body. No, I like the feeling of feeling tall because you had to get up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what it was. Yeah, so here I am swinging this back. So would you ever get like a big, a big car?
Speaker 1:No, OK, no, no, that wouldn't do anything for me. Now. I'm tall as hell. I don't want to.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't want to have to jump to get up into my which. I really don't understand why people do that, but that's not my business.
Speaker 2:I would like to be like above, like so I could see, because sometimes I feel like I can't see for real and I hate when I'm driving and the car in front of me is taller than mine and I can't see in front of them. No, I like being on the ground, but I do like my car. But Shumbo let me play out the scene.
Speaker 1:OK, because we get along with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you get along with. No, you keep interjecting me.
Speaker 1:Well, because, because what exactly?
Speaker 2:Come on with the story.
Speaker 1:So here I am swinging this bad has been about 20 minutes, not getting story, not getting tired and I'm by this green Toyota Ford runner If you're Nigerian, we all know the car because I know everybody and their mama had a forerunner. I'm swinging the wooden bat and I'm getting closer and closer to the front of the car and the headlight, the driver side headlight and my ass was not even thinking about it.
Speaker 1:Of course, because I'm young, I'm trying to get in the zone. I'm sad. I'm trying to be Barry Bonds at this time, or at that time it was probably Juan Pierre or Alfonso Serrano, derek Lee, what's its name? The first?
Speaker 2:time I saw some no Bill Cosby, no Justin Timberlake, I don't know, I'm just naming people because you just name it people.
Speaker 1:No, these are actual baseball players.
Speaker 2:OK, well, anybody, not everybody know actual, I think his name is Ryan Phillips.
Speaker 1:He was the first baseman for the Phillies. He was left handed but he was a black baseball player, but I could be off, but anyways, jackie.
Speaker 2:Robinson Daisy, come on now.
Speaker 1:Was he alive while I played? I don't know.
Speaker 2:No, no, but anyways you can't idolize people who are dead.
Speaker 1:No, because I didn't get to watch them play. How do you sound oh?
Speaker 2:that's why.
Speaker 1:That's why Michael Jordan is not my goat. I don't care about that man.
Speaker 2:Oh, who's your goat?
Speaker 1:LeBron James.
Speaker 2:LeBron James.
Speaker 1:Anyways, you are sidetracking.
Speaker 2:LeBron.
Speaker 1:James, Anyways. So here I am swinging his bat. I'm swinging his bat, we getting closer and closer to the driver's side headlight. And then one time I was like I'm in my head. I was, I was getting pitched, I getting a pitch thrown to me. I was like I'm going to hit this out the park. So I take a really big swing. And on my swing back I heard crack. And here you know, I bust the whole front tail light headlight. Headlight Busted it. And what did I do?
Speaker 2:I bought me no, no, no, that was not who I was as a child.
Speaker 1:I actually try to hide the evidence, like my parents would have noticed. Interesting, I really try to hide the evidence. I try to hide the bat. Yeah. I tried to hide the glass, yeah, almost as if I didn't see they was going to notice that they, that they headlight was out. But isn't that who I am? Yeah, yeah. So, yeah, so I try to hide it, because I was going to tell the big gulp story too. Yeah, but we already told that, you guys.
Speaker 2:We already told that. You got to go back to that. You got to go back to that podcast.
Speaker 1:I can't remember which podcast I told a big gulp.
Speaker 2:But yes, that was real, that's when we went to New York. Yeah, yeah, that's when we went to New York. Get us out of here. That's like one of our highest downloaded downloaded podcast episodes. It's because the story was fire. Yes, a really good story. Go back and listen to that season one.
Speaker 1:So here I am. I thought I did a good job hiding all my evidence, so naturally, when I got back in the house, it's still the middle of the day and our parents used to leave us alone all the time. So, the one thing I made sure not to do was to tell, was to tell Yemi, because she a snitch.
Speaker 2:No, I was actually there when it happened.
Speaker 1:No, you were not.
Speaker 2:Yes, I was.
Speaker 1:You were not. Where was I? You were inside the house because you didn't. Why would you watch me swing a bat for hours? That's what you did.
Speaker 2:No, you weren't swinging it for hours, it was. The thing about it is you weren't even by yourself, like you had a couple of your friends.
Speaker 1:No I did not.
Speaker 2:I'm going to tell Deji this is what happens when you tell stories that are that far in the past I'd be having to like let you tell the story. And then, when I tell the story, you'd be like oh yeah, that's actually what happened, because my memory is just, is just superfluous.
Speaker 1:Sure go, because now we're making of words.
Speaker 2:I'm just doing what you do.
Speaker 1:Tell the story Johnny.
Speaker 2:So the way I've seen it is like we, like our parents yes, like they just said used to leave us at home by ourselves for hours on end while they worked. That's just a lot of foreign kids experience. So like we used to have people come into like filter in our house in and out all the time a lot of times, because our house was always just no rules. Anyway, like Deji said, he had a couple of his friends over and they were outside and the garage door was open. I might have been like in and out because during the summer this was in the summer I was on a couch glued watching TV, but I think I might have came out because, you know, deji was with his friends and, yes, there was a wooden bat that one of his friends I brought over.
Speaker 2:It was not, it was not sure it's because, yeah, you, you, we didn't have it so and he was just swinging the bat and he just ended up getting too close to the car. And I feel like we all saw it happen before it happened, because it was like why are you this close to the car with this bat? But you just, you know, you weren't thinking and he cocked it back and then, actually, I may have not been outside, but I feel like I saw, like I might have not been outside the whole time, but I literally remember you swinging the bat back and I was, and I feel like I even told you like Deji, move before and you were like no, yummy, I know what the fuck I'm doing, like you always do. And yeah, you just swung your stuff back and you just cracked it. I'm sorry, the story wasn't anti-climactic. You already told them, or? I'm sorry, the story was anti-climactic. You already told them what happened.
Speaker 1:I don't think that. I think it played out the way I said, which is I did exactly what you said.
Speaker 2:I just remember that it was one white boy that was over here. He had a big like something about him, looked like due from Dexter's laboratory to me, his like arch nemesis, the one with the big head, man dork, man dork, whatever his name was. That's what I envisioned with the white boy that used to come to our house looked like.
Speaker 2:That's what the guy looked like Without the glasses, just the big head and the haircut man dork so yeah, and Savan is in my head as well too, so I feel like yeah, I don't think they would, but I do remember hiding everything.
Speaker 1:I remember it was like.
Speaker 2:I was like when we was young and Deji used to get in trouble, I used to really feel bad for him, but like, at the same time and the same token if I'm speaking like Deji I fully always tried to get ahead of it. Like anytime Deji was going to get himself into trouble, I like warned him, I let him know, I would say, hey, like I was I've always been which is funny now because the roles are reversed I've always been a voice of reason for Deji and his frivolous behavior. So, like, I would always say, like I don't think or you know, like I just was a person who was very anxious, and still I am in a different way. But yeah, like I just remember like being like I think you should like go in the grass and do that. He was like no, you don't do it, I'm doing it.
Speaker 1:And you did it. I definitely did it. I was swinging the hell out of that bat, for almost 20 minutes and nothing happened.
Speaker 2:But then when I came outside, I said Deji, you probably shouldn't be doing this.
Speaker 1:No, but also the reason why I know for a fact that I try to hide it, because you're saying it, because of your anxiety, because the thing about it is Yemi's anxious nature made you it, made you real quick to be like, oh, deji did it or Deji did this. I know y'all remember the story.
Speaker 2:I'm not giving my ass beef for nobody.
Speaker 1:I know y'all remember the story when I told you about how I wanted them damn power bands. And Yemi, oh, here's Stitch into the whole motherfucking neighborhood. I didn't say it. I didn't say it. I just I didn't say it. What did you say? What did you say? No, no, no.
Speaker 2:I didn't snitch. I just did not go without hiding it Because I did not snitch. My mom was not a dummy. That's the problem. You think you can outsmart people, which is why you're trying to hide broken glass from a headlight. My mom was not a dummy. She saw you, she, earlier in the day. You asked her to buy the bands for you. She said no, you come home the same day. The band is on your arm. She put two and two together. She didn't put two and two together.
Speaker 1:It got four she don't pay attention to be like that. She don't pay attention to be like that she really don't.
Speaker 2:I mean at the end of the day, but when she said something about it, I did not deny it. That's what you did, no because you said something when you bring something to somebody's attention?
Speaker 1:I didn't. That's what happened.
Speaker 2:Okay, but what happened with this? What happened with the?
Speaker 1:Constitution. So this situation right, let's talk about it.
Speaker 1:Obviously I cleaned everything, I made sure everything was good and I was like it don't look that bad, right? Obviously everybody in their mama they lying to me like, nah, bro, you'll be able to get away with it. But in my head I was like, yes, up, because I've done this so many times. There has been so many things. From the time that I was about mommy, from the baby, from the very first time we moved here, I have been steadily breaking and fucking shit up in this house. My dad used to get mad at me because for at least once a week I would spill water.
Speaker 2:So I was not coordinated.
Speaker 1:I was not coordinated at all, so I had to learn how to hide my fuck ups. I've broken doorknobs, I have broken glass, I have broken plates, I have broken electronics. There are so many things my parents don't know. So in my head I was like this is a regular ass day, but obviously I didn't know how much Today was not that day. But also people be knowing they fucking cars right.
Speaker 1:Obviously. And it's a headlight. Duh, I'm not a child, I don't know that about cars. So then, you know, my parents come through and I'm chilling, I'm minding my own business, I'm acting like nothing happened and me and Yemi are Yemi's watching something and immediately niggas came in. That bitch it was that's not the door, that's footsteps. Dad yelling who broke the headlight. I was like I was looking around. I ain't saying nothing. I literally did not. I'm a stone cold killer. I don't give a. You're gonna have to kill me To get that information. You're gonna have to kill me. So I'm over here, my dad is fuming. He's like what happened? What happened to the headlights? Who could do this to my car?
Speaker 2:So I'm trying so hard. How could somebody do that?
Speaker 1:So I'm trying so hard. I'm trying so hard not to give it away.
Speaker 2:I was trying so hard, I was like I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know who. You think it was me. You think it was me? No, no, you're bad.
Speaker 2:You're bad, that's how they knew it was him, because he over here enacting your by accident. No, he don't even do that at 10 years old. But I did not tell, so I was like I was okay, so can I say how I think it went happened?
Speaker 1:And I think you said, I think you snitched on me.
Speaker 2:No, I don't think I snitched, but I think you like you. I really feel like you confessed and then you remorse. I don't remember. I'm just gonna tell it in and I'll let you.
Speaker 1:That might be possible.
Speaker 2:I'll let you fill in what you think. I feel like you ended up like telling them what happened and you went out there to reenact what happened and you was like oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's exactly what I did.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So then you went out there with the bat and you showed them what happened, because you was like, I think after a while you was like, oh, it was an accident. And our parents don't know what that word is. They don't, you're right. That's exactly what it was, yeah they don't know what that word is.
Speaker 1:I said it was an accident. I snitched on myself because I tried to get it. That was when I tried to get ahead of the bullet, but I did hide all the evidence.
Speaker 2:I did.
Speaker 1:And I was like. I was like it was just an accident. They would say how is it an accident?
Speaker 2:That's not such a thing as an accident. So like you have to be smart, that in.
Speaker 1:And then they were like why were you swinging the bat by the car Right? And I was like well that's the only space of it. They were like there's a whole, you know the whole yard, and I was like I was just going.
Speaker 2:But to be quite honest, we probably didn't have room in the driveway because then they had all these fucking cars. So it's like you know I don't know about anybody else, but like, like, I feel, like everybody know a Nigerian person that every time you see them, they in a new car.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And like that was our dad for a while. Like I don't know how he acquired these cars, but like every couple of months or every years or so, he would have a new car and they would never be new, they would always there was always be something wrong with them, but like every car was nicer than the last one. But yeah, either way, like the driveway may have been full, which is why you weren't like in the grass, or like at the end of the driveway, like out of the way of the cars, or like in the grass or something, but either way continue. Yeah, so like what happened, like when they found out, oh, that might be something foul.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that man put he taught me a new one. Honestly, though, I'll say this you deserved it. I mean no, because I'm a child and I we don't make good decisions, but if I look at the grand scheme of ass whoopings that I got some epic ass whoopings like I used to think about there's so many times, and that's what we talking about. Yeah, Today.
Speaker 2:I mean we got we. It took us a while to get there, but we talk about today's episode is about ass whoopings.
Speaker 1:It took it I, and I think about this a lot because I used to get my ass whoop a lot like a lot Like y'all. If y'all think y'all parents was mean, y'all should have been in my house. So I used to get my ass be so much. I got my ass be by my mom's.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I got my ass. I remember one day where I got my ass be by my mom's and my dad, that's what you got, like you got your ass be so bad by mom. And I also been. I also have my ass be by my older brother.
Speaker 2:So like for me no not. But you want one. I remember the one time you got your ass be so bad by mom and then, like mom told dad, and then dad be Joe, yeah, yeah, and that was the worst.
Speaker 1:I was like. I was like this is, this is actually like y'all need to call DCFS, because I was somebody. I was and I and I realized, I realized it, be it stopped becoming ass whoopings because it seemed like they was doing it just to get their frustration out, which is fucked up.
Speaker 1:It's crazy and we'll talk about that later in the episode. But I really got some math, some ridiculous ass whoopings, like when I told y'all, I'm not fucking used to get an ass whooping for spilling water, yeah, and then they wonder why we're so astray from them now. But yeah, I only say that because it's just weird, because for me for the longest time I was like I thought that was normal. You know what I'm saying? To get your ass be yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean, I don't. I never thought that corporal punishment was something you like. That's the only way we know, like that's literally the only thing we knew because I'm thinking about the one time and even like some shows A lot of shows don't show it now, but I feel like when we grew up like no, honestly, I don't think I watched any TV shows where their parents would beat their ass. Like you know, white people, white parents, did you get your ass be?
Speaker 1:No way, look, I don't. Then I watered your ass.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah. I feel like you didn't get in trouble a lot.
Speaker 1:Like for real.
Speaker 2:I started getting in trouble in school. So, like, anytime I would get in trouble in school, yes, when I come home I'll get my ass beat. Because it's like why are you chosen? Trouble in school? Yeah, go ahead to learn. But then that ended up becoming like a system, like a systematic issue, so it was like yeah, my dad realized it was just like oh, they just don't.
Speaker 2:That's just. That's just what it is. And I think like it didn't stop for real until high school, but by the time it stopped I was already too old, like our parents really like stop even, really, yeah. Like by the time I got to my senior year I really like never gotten trouble, literally Like I never got in trouble and I was just trying to get out as quickly as possible, like I was on my way out the door. So, but I feel like from like elementary school, by the time I started coming into my own voice and like who I was, like elementary school until like, yeah, like my senior year of high school, I was getting in trouble at school and then like I would get home, like I would get in trouble at home. But, daisy, we're getting trouble at home, and then that's what we'll call some big as we don't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I just was just like I didn't care. Yeah, quite simply, I thought I was grown at a young age. You couldn't tell me nothing. I remember one time where I had I don't know what I did, but I might have spoken back to my mom and dad and my dad heard about it, and then I was so mad at my mom that I slammed the door. And when I say that man came up with the quickness with a rubber sandal Boy, it got. It did get to the point where I did think it was like a little extreme. And I'll say it because I remember one time they had beat my ass so bad.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That I had to go to school with a long sleeve shirt on, and it didn't make no fucking sense because I had well done my shit. Oh my gosh, oh my God, let me say it.
Speaker 2:Okay, so one time I got in trouble in school and I don't even remember what the fuck it was for. I think it was because I think it was because I got like a bad grade in something or like a teacher left a bad note and I did not show my parents and it went on for so long. It went on for so long and went on for so long and they're like hey, like did you show your parents? You need your parents signature? And I was just like no, whatever, I think I actually like threw it away. And then they finally like sent something else home and they was like make sure you show this to your parents. Or they called my dad or whatever.
Speaker 2:So like I didn't have the paper for him to sign. So my dad like beat my ass, literally, put belts in my hands. My hands were red, fucking like on fire. I might have had like Mark's welts wherever on my legs, on my body, wherever he beat me with the belt. And then he literally told me he said go to school and show them your hands and let them know that I got the letter or whatever. I cannot I'm not making this up and I'm sorry, I triggered. I triggered it.
Speaker 1:I get triggered?
Speaker 2:Yeah, of course I'm sorry, I should have given you a word. It's something like that. You know, there's not one in the podcast where we be warned the office shit. But like I literally I mean of course I did not show them my hands. I think he just like wrote a note in my notebook or something. Am I like what they call them Assistant notebooks or something like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think he just wrote a note in there like letting them know that he got the message and that I got the message. But yeah, like he literally was like, oh, yeah, go to school and show them your hands, or something like that. And then my mom was like no, no, no, no, do that, because they'll call whatever, yeah, yeah. But yeah, that didn't even beat the bricks off my ass and I was like what the fuck?
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I keep, I keep and.
Speaker 2:I remember that was a bad day for me for real, because I had like rashes all over my legs. So I was already going through it, like I was already in so much pain and I don't know what the rashes were from, but like my legs were already like red and I was trying to use that as sympathy. My parents not that nigga did not give a fuck. He's still be my ass. I'm like I'm already in pain and I'm just crying and crying and crying, like yeah, and the life is so fucked up.
Speaker 2:Now that I'm just thinking about this story like, oh my gosh, we really went through it. I mean, yeah, but part of it was I mean I know I didn't deserve that ass, but not bad for real, like there's nothing I could have happened.
Speaker 1:I remember bragging about SB so bad that dad, my dad or our dad. He apologized because it was like I said, I was a very I just was one of them kids that like, like you really couldn't like I was acting like I was a grown man at like seven. Yeah, we grew up really fast yeah.
Speaker 1:So like I remember one time I had lied to like a camp, a camp counselor or whatever, or a staff member that we was at some after school program, and I did it with a straight face and I did not feel no remorse. And then he was like are you lying? I was like, no, I just I'm telling you the truth. But then he found out I was lying, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna fucking snitch to my daddy. Yeah, took me to the store, maybe take a switch. Yeah, mom. No, it was. Dad knows mom. They all the same to me now. Yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I remember this day, I remember. So, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 1:It was it was dad. No it was dad. No, it was dad. And the store picked my switch. It was mom, it was dad. It was mom, it was dad.
Speaker 2:It was mom.
Speaker 1:It was dad.
Speaker 2:Would you like me to tell the story, or we're gonna keep going?
Speaker 1:back for another story.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, like all that happened and then mom came to pick us up from safe Remember she came to pick us up in a Toyota Camry and your ass was doing whatever the fuck you was doing in the car and she stopped the car, got out, picked up a branch and then was beating you with it, like stopped. Like I remember I remember we're like over there by Glenbrook that she stopped. I could tell you exactly where it was when she stopped. She got out of the car and started being you with the branch and then in the store, yes, with the same branch, was being you in the back and I was just like sitting there. And then, yes, when you got home, that was the time where you got to ask me to get him by dad Once, once he got back from wherever he was.
Speaker 2:Yes, oh, wow you know the good thing like.
Speaker 1:I blocked it out. Yeah, I, lowkey, blocked it out.
Speaker 2:No, it was. That was a very traumatic.
Speaker 1:I, lowkey, blocked no because you said it and I'm like it's coming back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, waves, I was you know, like the one thing that we would do is like if you were lucky and you got in trouble on the weekend, you could like get away with, like not getting in trouble with her dad because he would go out, like he would work like Friday, saturday and come back Sunday. So that's when you would consider yourself lucky because, like you could, you was good for the weekend until like Sunday. But yeah, she was. We used to be like oh okay, I don't got to deal with this until like Sunday.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't, I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't want my kids to be afraid of me.
Speaker 1:I don't even know if I was afraid. I just feel like I felt like it was lazy. Honestly, I felt like it was just lazy because after you feel like disappointing your kids. No, I feel like being their ass is lazy because you're already a lot of energy. You're no, because you're already starting. You do mess with kids.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I don't mean sorry. You've been around kids so you know how strong and you know what it takes to actually hurt them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly yeah.
Speaker 1:So I think after a while I was just like you're just taking the easy way out, You're not talking to me, You're not doing anything.
Speaker 2:That's just how they, that's just what they know, though.
Speaker 1:No, I'm not saying it because of that, because I'm saying because you know I got. I got to the point where I was like sure you could beat me up because I was like you know I was right.
Speaker 2:I was like. I thought it was gonna be like, yeah, we'll get that, Okay, stick with us.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, because this is why I was trying to turn it so I was. I was, although I did not give a fuck. Yeah, I was a very spiteful person. Exactly. I used to be so catty. I said if you're gonna fuck me up the whole house, I'd be like, shut your mouth. I'd be like I'll be doing everything, hyperventilating, all that shit. I give no fuck. I was like nigga, you're gonna hear me, you're gonna hear me. And that was all I did. I said if you want to put that work in, guess what? I'm gonna put that work in too. I said God gave me this voice for a reason.
Speaker 2:I'm laughing because it's so true. I used to be, like they do, fireball and like, calm down, it's not that serious.
Speaker 1:No, it was dead ass and I would look at, I would look at every. I wouldn't even be crying, no more. I would just be like, because I was, I was real pressed. I was like, if y'all go keep beating my ass, I'm gonna make sure, I'm gonna make sure y'all hate, y'all get to the point where you hate it. No, this is so true Because I was younger and I can say this to this day when I was young.
Speaker 1:I was like the pettiest person on earth, like there was nothing in this world that I would not get back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you did something, I'm gonna get you back. You're gonna feel it too, for show.
Speaker 1:I was like I'm going straight to the floor, I don't give no, no, because I, the way I used to be, I'd be crying, drooling everything, snot everything. I'd be like look I, look you go, you go.
Speaker 2:I used to be like, look at me suffering. Please, you still gotta beat me. I used to puppy dog eyes. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:I, it was, it was a mistake, I apologize.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry I won't do it again, am I? That's it. You won't do it again, absolutely. Oh. Whatever the fuck you were saying, I know you won't, I'm still going to beat you to like huh, and me I be, I be I be and me I be blocking.
Speaker 1:He said move your head out the way I be like no, I be like no I was. I said I I'm not taking no ass. I got to the point where I was like I'm not taking no more ass, no Like for real.
Speaker 2:Do you remember the last time you got your ass?
Speaker 1:beat. Yeah, I was in high. It was in high school. Yeah, what happened? It was when. What was it really ass beating? But it was when I spoke up, because you lost your phone.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, yeah, that was like the last time you got your ass beat.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I yeah me had lost her phone and my dad had hit her calling her stupid or all those things, and I literally said straight up I was like dad, that's not right. Right and why are you getting upset or it's not? It's an accident.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and he's like shut up.
Speaker 1:Nobody was talking to you and he literally slapped me across the face and I was, like you, still wrong. Yeah, and I was like you and then he beat my ass after that, but I was like it is what it is.
Speaker 2:It is what it is. Yeah, it is what it is.
Speaker 1:It is what it is. I was like.
Speaker 2:I was like so and that's the crazy thing about it, though Like we're having these conversations, we're seeing her having these conversations. Like if we were to talk to our parents about this, what do you think they would say?
Speaker 1:Like that's just how no, they would say they did it because they loved us. That's okay. Remember, hey, you remember when I, when I reminded Tunde about how he beat me up, yeah, yeah, because I said I wasn't going to mop the floor.
Speaker 2:Yeah, tunde be acting oblivious because he got, because he got kids now.
Speaker 1:He's like, he's like. I never beat you up. I said to the please to the you you beat. You beat me like I was a grown man.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And he was like, oh, did I really?
Speaker 2:I said everybody blocking shit out, they remember we, we, the only motherfuckers that got to remember. I'm not a motherfuck that got to remember the hell I said. I said hell yeah, I was like what do you like do?
Speaker 1:do, do, do, do. You ain't never go talk to me like that. I said hold on.
Speaker 2:He was just mad at the world.
Speaker 1:Hold on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you see people was taking a frustrating and I think that's the main reason why, like now, I can like, compartmentalize my, my feelings, my emotions, because I never want any of my emotions towards a specific situation to affect somebody else. I might have not, I might have not done the best job of it in the past, but I feel like, like now I'm more aware of it, like I don't want to project. I hate, I hate being a person who projects.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just if I think about it just holistically, I don't think like Corporate punishment to the degree that we got.
Speaker 2:There is corporate punishment too. We'll talk about that.
Speaker 1:Corporal punishment to the degree that I had really made sense, because it wasn't getting through to me, because, at the end of the day, because you were still in your SP and then you was being petty right back.
Speaker 2:Like everybody gonna have to hear me cry and you can put the volume up on the TV if you want to. And I was still crying over this motherfucking volume that you put up on the TV.
Speaker 1:Because I think they would do too.
Speaker 2:They would beat us, and then they would act like they didn't just beat us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or they would apologize.
Speaker 2:And the worst thing, oh my goodness and I know we talked about this before, I know we have the worst thing that would happen is when our mom would set us up. Oh, scheister. Excuse me like our mom would set us up and snitch to our dad. I don't know why. Maybe she felt like it made their relationship closer, whatever but then, like when he would start to beat us, she'd be like, which means it's enough. It's enough, stop, stop, stop.
Speaker 1:And I'm like you should be saying that.
Speaker 2:And now I'm looking at her right in the eyes while this nigga beat me Like bitch. This is your fault now, bitch, but like this is your fault. This is the reason why I'm giving beat like this. So, yes, keep slashing me. Keep slashing me, and I'm looking at you See you would do that whole psychological beat it never, worked.
Speaker 1:It never worked.
Speaker 2:It never worked. You got to. I should have been playing your game.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because I'd be doing that. They'd be watching some movie, they'd be watching sports and here in the background, I remember one time dad beat me up and he started watching the Cubs game and I cried through the whole entire Cubs game.
Speaker 2:Oh, that hit us with that game, you know baseball longest fuck.
Speaker 1:I was crying for three hours. I said we ate. I said like. I said, I did not.
Speaker 2:I didn't get no sleep because of y'all Y'all not going to get no sleep because of me.
Speaker 1:But I used to love it because after that I would go to sleep. So would you.
Speaker 2:You could have just no, you know that would like, and I feel like that release was also good too, Because that breathing oh, it would be the deepest, you would be in the deepest.
Speaker 1:I'm mad.
Speaker 2:I mean, I love it it takes a lot of energy to cry. It takes a lot out of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just like it take a lot of energy to beat somebody up.
Speaker 2:But I'm sure they went to sleep just fine. Of course they did they probably slept a little bit better because they got to take out whatever frustration they was going through for that day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm sure they did that. They used me as a punching bag or whatever the hell you want.
Speaker 2:But yeah, like I don't plan on using gentle parenting with my children, I don't think there's any point to corporal punishment. I'm all like you might get slept on your booty once or twice Like hey, love taps for real.
Speaker 1:For the back of the hand. Yeah, type shit, but I want, but I already know I'm not going to even put hands to my daughter.
Speaker 2:No, I want it to be to the point to where I can look at my kid Yep and just if I look at them and they know that they are in trouble.
Speaker 1:Me is just even the body posture.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:If I do something and they like. Oh daughter.
Speaker 2:But one thing I'm not going to do is I'm disappointed in you. I never gave a fuck about that. I remember one time but by the time our dad stopped beating us for real and he would have conversations with us about the stuff that we were doing. I remember one time he was like, or we had asked him for some money for some groceries Like my mom was traveling and we needed to cook and we went over there and asked him for some grocery money and he was like you guys are disappointed in me asking me for money. I said I don't give a fuck, give me the money. I literally said that too. I said I don't give a fuck. I said I don't give a fuck, give me the money so we can go buy these groceries.
Speaker 1:The way our parents used to shave us, and we would just bat it off, like yours.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we really, I really we'll make you think I can fuck what you got upset about how you feel about that. I really don't give a fuck. Are you going to give me this $20 so I can go buy these groceries, so we can eat, so we can have some shit to eat? Or are you just going to be disappointed looking at me through this?
Speaker 1:last. Yeah, I think they think it's funny because when you look at it it's like they think they did such an amazing job and I was like you might have did in sooner.
Speaker 2:You did, I did. Yeah, you did, I did.
Speaker 1:But I don't know you giving yourself a Grammy.
Speaker 2:I'm saying people want and I said we was going to talk about this and I feel like, ok, let's bring it up right now you need to make sure, before you start looking back at your life and you start going to therapy and you start like not saying, don't do all those things, definitely go to therapy and start looking back at your life, but you need to, like for real, have a serious assessment of your parents and be like did these motherfuckers actually want kids? Like, did these motherfuckers actually want kids or did they just have kids because society told them that's what they're supposed to do? Because if society told them that they're supposed to have kids, they probably weren't equipped or really gave a fuck about you to have you. So it's like you need to that. And if that's the case, then you can't take anything that they did to you they said to you the way they treated you, personal, because they was never in it to really I'll poke back.
Speaker 1:I'll poke back Because, yes you, they might have not wanted you, but at the end of the day, if you have something as your responsibility, it's your job to take care of it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I mean, some people have children and resent them. Yeah, but and that's the worst thing you could do- but that's not, that's so.
Speaker 1:that's what I'm trying to say. It's not.
Speaker 2:I don't think that's what happened in our case to a small extent, but I feel like, yeah, like in certain instances, if your parents never Like, I feel like being a parent parents, excuse me is a commitment and for as big as the commitment it is, I feel like people don't take it serious.
Speaker 1:What I was saying is everybody can be a parent. Well, I don't want to say it in that way.
Speaker 2:No, I mean like yeah, not in a way.
Speaker 1:I guess anybody can because of adoption, but because they?
Speaker 2:make that hard. I'm just saying, like, the ability to have children is very easy and fulfilling, and if you're capable, right Like if you're physically capable it's very easy, like anybody can have a kid.
Speaker 1:And the fact that a lot of people don't actually believe in condoms. Now, that is just. I wouldn't say that, but I feel like more and more people are.
Speaker 2:Anti-sexual protection.
Speaker 1:Sure or contraceptives.
Speaker 2:Contraceptive yeah.
Speaker 1:Whatever. But I wouldn't say that. Maybe I'm generalizing, but I think because everybody gets to the sense of like, ooh, this person is for me, and even not they could just get caught up in the lust of it, all that it causes for a lot of premature I wouldn't say babies, but a lot of premature. It progresses the relationship a lot faster. It needs to be, and because of that reason you end up having people that are parents but they shouldn't be parents together because they were never meant to be together. So it starts off feeling like a lot of resentment because it's two people who were into each other but not necessarily loved each other. But then they have a child that they both love. But the conflicting issue is their relationship with one another. That's why it's so hard to have mixed families.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but that's why I mean and I always think about, like love Not always, but I feel like recently I've always thought about love and children and babies. With the great story that is Steven Universe, sapphire and Ruby, I think love is supposed to be the, or children, babies are supposed to be the personification of your love for somebody else, and I feel like at times that is not lost. I just think that a lot of people idea of what love is, what the physical effects of love are, aren't the same. Yeah, so I feel like for me, if you've ever watched Steven Universe, these two gems form a different gem, a fusion, a fusion spoiler alert and it is their love, their love, formed this being that is greater than them by themselves, and that's what I think babies should be.
Speaker 1:Their love gave birth to something greater.
Speaker 2:Exactly, and I feel like that's what babies are, and because you're giving birth to something greater and something so cherished, something that is so forbidden and something so cherished between you two, you do anything to keep it safe and protected and strong and all these things, and I just feel like that's what it should be. So, if it's not that you should have kids, but you get into. That's just me, though, personally.
Speaker 1:No, you get into a deeper topic that a lot of people don't want to talk about and I was just speaking about this, but I think a lot of people, I don't even want to say a lot of people, but I'm going to make a statement and feel free to come back at me if you all don't believe me, but what I realize is that when you end up growing in these homes that you felt like your love was neglected. You I'm not going to say you don't know how to properly love, but you don't know how to be properly loved, and that's another side tangent. But it's very hard to believe in something that you don't understand.
Speaker 2:For sure.
Speaker 1:Because you only view it as physical. And I think that's the problem Because, similar to your point when you talk about Garnet and Amethyst, that is a connection of emotion.
Speaker 2:Who is why Amethyst Do?
Speaker 1:you mean like Ruby and Sapphire? Yes, Ruby and Sapphire.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry if y'all don't watch Steven Universe. You need to. I don't even know why this is something we have to tell you to do. Go watch Steven's Universe. This is one of the greatest animated shows in the fucking world, like Top 5.
Speaker 1:That show has so many undertones of emotional intelligence.
Speaker 2:Nuance and it's a children's show. 15 minute episodes on Cartoon Network.
Speaker 1:Season 2 went to the rest After season 1, everything all the episodes 30 minutes.
Speaker 2:Yeah, ok.
Speaker 1:But even the movies and everything. But what I was trying to get to is simply this I was having a conversation where I was like I think people are replacing the idea of love with pets. And I said, the reason why I will never get a pet before I actually get married and have children is because I have too much love to be giving out and not receiving.
Speaker 1:No, not that, because I will receive it back. I know that I have too much love that I would like to give to people who, at the end of the day, aren't relying on me.
Speaker 1:So, like with a pet you're giving them their food, you're giving them shelter, you're giving them water, toys, all these things, and people will talk well, a dog gives me this back and I'm like sure, but realistically, that dog is just doing that because you're providing to them. Now they have all these studies that dogs are blah, blah, blah. Whatever, what I'm trying to say is that there's so much more power when you give your love to say somebody who's your person, and you understand that this person can. They can choose to be with you or they can choose to leave you, but because they have so much love for you and all that you have provided, they want to give that back to you.
Speaker 1:That reciprocation right. Why would I not want to hold on and cherish that the dog no more fucking, always going to love me, that cat always going to fucking love me? You know what I'm?
Speaker 2:saying Cats don't really love people.
Speaker 1:The worst. But the fact of the matter is, if the opportunity for you to fall out of love with me is there, that means I have to constantly, constantly prove to you that we should not prove that I am in love with you, because what is that going to do?
Speaker 1:That practice should then overflow into your children, because I'm taking this time to love you so deeply over these years. And then we, like you said, we created a garnet. We created a garnet, and that garnet is the reflection of the love that me and you have with each other. So it's the same thing. I'm just telling you how I feel.
Speaker 1:People are trying to misplace their love because they feel like they're in these loveless marriages, but half the time you just don't want to admit to yourself that you was trying to force something that shouldn't be forced. And we can all say shit. I'ma say it, i'ma be the first one to say it Love is a powerful aphrodisiac. Honestly, it's the greatest drug you'll ever have in your life. People have killed over love, people have stolen over love, people have literally backstabbed people over love, and we always, always talk about how, oh, I'm hurt, I don't want this, I don't want that. But you never say that you don't want love. You never say that you don't want to love. And anybody who tells you that they could be single for the rest of the life they lying to you.
Speaker 2:Some people can't be them.
Speaker 1:They lying to you. They can be alone and not in a relationship, but they're gonna still need some form of intimacy, intimacy Emotional. Yeah, which means you still need love. So when people be saying that stuff, I'm gonna say stop thinking about the Western idea of love. Love is multifaceted.
Speaker 2:It is a verb.
Speaker 1:It is a verb. And why are we talking about this? Cause us two motherfuckers was out here getting our ass beat. We did not know what the fuck love was. Yeah, it's what it really is. So sometimes you have to take a step back, right.
Speaker 2:They would call what we got tough love. Some people would say, well, we got a lot of tough love. I feel like the. When you like, reflect back on your childhood. I feel like, for me, the memories that I remember the most are the ones that involve less desirable situations. It's called trauma. It's called trauma.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I'm like it wasn't all bad, of course, but I feel like anything that was good was good, because it should be good, right, like yeah, like I never really had to too much worry about where my next meal was coming from. I knew I was always gonna have food.
Speaker 1:You don't have memories Like I have good memories. I have really good memories of mom and dad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they're cool people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean I have, but my problem is that I always, I always look at the world like it's half full.
Speaker 2:Half full.
Speaker 1:I'm a very optimistic person, so like for me.
Speaker 2:And I'm a matter of fact, person Like no the glass does, it's air in the glass. Yeah, but it's also water in the glass too, yeah.
Speaker 1:I can see, but that's why we go well together, because we balance each other out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I'm a water sign and you're a fire sign, so we make sense, sure.
Speaker 1:Cause I didn't. I thought Sagittarius was earth for a long time, until something.
Speaker 2:Doesn't it seem like it? It would be an earth sign.
Speaker 1:It's a horse. Yeah, it's a man horse why?
Speaker 2:would that Like. It's like the line to which an wardrobe Where's the half man, half goat?
Speaker 1:Santar, santar, yeah, sagittarius.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I mean, I yeah, we make sense. Fire and water. People think that we're like opposites, but we actually we balance each other.
Speaker 1:Very well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I like Sagittarius people.
Speaker 1:We're an amazing breed. That's what I hear.
Speaker 2:Y'all don't bother me. Some people, some other people have probably have a different opinion of you, but I, for the most part, like Sagittarius, yeah what you trying to say. I'm saying like everybody has a sign that they don't like. Well, I hear that, or that they don't get along with I hear.
Speaker 1:Well, every time I introduce myself and tell people what, like, what I am cause you know, that's a question that everybody asks off the face yeah, I'd be like. They'd be like, oh you, a Sagittarist. I said.
Speaker 2:Oh, a terrorist. Yes, I was like what? Yeah, I mean I feel like the only bad thing people say about cancers is that we're emotional, like we're cry babies. But I mean, yeah, Like what the hell? Like I was going to say I don't really cry a lot, but I really don't, but like I'm always emotional, which makes no sense. Yeah, I'm always emotional, though.
Speaker 1:Cause I feel like I'd be crying sometimes too much.
Speaker 2:I mean, that's the part of like we're growing, Like we have a lot of emotional intelligence, because we grew up not being able to express our emotions but feeling them. So, like you know this thing, that you're feeling it's wrong. Yeah, Like we. And now I feel like I just want to live in my emotions and just live in be.
Speaker 1:I don't want to live in my emotions. I want to live in a state of peace.
Speaker 2:No, I want to be able to like live in my emotions, like be able to express when I'm this way or when I'm that way, oh yeah, yeah, I just like stoic in and like I do that all the time.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like I'm gonna tell. Like if you ask me how I feel about something, I'm gonna tell you exactly how I feel about it. And like, if you would have, if you would have asked me 12 years ago when I was getting my ass beat by my parents, if I was how I was doing, I would tell you I'm fine, I'm okay, I'm cool. But now if like a similar situation of course not like exact, because nobody's beating my ass now, but like if you were asked me how a similar or if you were to ask me how a situation is making me feel, I will tell you wholeheartedly like it's making me feel this way, and I'm not like holding back emotion or lying.
Speaker 1:But that's growth. Yeah, maybe if and I'm coming to the resolution of this episode but maybe if our parents had taken that same journey, they would realize that you don't need to beat your kids.
Speaker 2:For sure, but it did give us a lot of stories and a lot of like to look back at for sure, but like the way this episode was going I'm sorry Like it was giving like like we just.
Speaker 1:We was going to vent. I didn't. We was trying to make this episode kind of funny.
Speaker 2:We were yes, that was the theme.
Speaker 1:You know, I came in with the story and you saw it at first.
Speaker 2:It took like 20 minutes for it, but we got there, you really we, we, we landed somewhere, and the point of it all is we don't believe in corporal punishment. Gentle parenting Maybe that's what this episode would be called.
Speaker 1:Gentle parenting. Gentle parenting yeah, I like that. All right, let's move to the next segment. Excuse me, I'm a little under the weather.
Speaker 2:For sure.
Speaker 1:It's either things.
Speaker 2:I said no, oh my goodness, excuse me, what would you like? To which one would you like to do first?
Speaker 1:I don't care, you know, I'm for forever.
Speaker 2:Okay, so let's do the things I said. Actually it's a two for one, because it's something that I sent you on Twitter, but it is a ghetto intellectual question. So we're going to knock these this out, especially since we talked a lot and then we get it. We're going to knock it out at once. I sent you a video at 731 AM today because I was up at 731 in the morning because Dajie and I were supposed to go boxing at 430, I mean at 530 in the morning, and he said I'm going back to sleep. And then woke up at nine o'clock and went boxing and guess what I was doing? Sleeping.
Speaker 1:I let you sleep. You look like you was tired.
Speaker 2:I'm exhausted, but the ghetto intellectual question is this this lady, it's a video, hold on.
Speaker 1:We'll start posting these on the page.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you guys can look at them too and give us your opinions. As a lady sitting on an airplane and she asks a man who has a window seat, will you give up your seat for my daughter because the scene the plane actually land calms her you, are you giving up your seat to the lady daughter so she can be calm for the flight? She's old enough to have her own seat, so it's not like it's like a top.
Speaker 1:Like it's not like you talking to me, I'd probably say yeah, because I don't. I'm just nice. I actually generally don't care why I sit on the plane.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're going to go to sleep anyway.
Speaker 1:Always I used to be a reader, but now the plane is, damn it, the only time I actually get sleep and I'm uninterrupted and nobody can reach me, which I actually like going on planes for that reason.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I like. I like going ghost for that reason and I like going on planes, because when I go ghost nobody will reach me except you in today. That's it. Those are literally the only people that have that are not on do not disturb in my phone, but everybody else is wonderful, because somehow, some way you still don't respond to my messages quick enough.
Speaker 1:That's cause I don't. I'm terrible at texting and it's gotten worse because I put all my energy into work. But besides the point, you need to stop doing that. If you ask me me personally, yeah, I probably give up the seat. Yeah, especially if it's a black girl.
Speaker 2:It's not a black girl, it was a white lady, and our white daughter.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would still probably do it, just because yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean you're a Christian.
Speaker 1:Sure, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Ask me the question. Would you ask me the question like I asked you?
Speaker 1:So yummy, yes, there's a white lady to ask you because you got a window seat. Yes, she got a little girl with her Right. She asked you hey, miss, yes, can my dog me? Yes, yeah, excuse me, miss.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Can my daughter get the window seat because it actually calms her nerves when she can see the plane line.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So it would be really, really considerate.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:If you could do that.
Speaker 2:You know, random white lady that I don't know and random white baby that I don't know. I don't give a fuck. If it called me, I could give a fuck. So you, if you and your white baby wanted a window seat because it calms her, and you knew that before you got on this flight, you should have bought the window seat, like I did, because one thing about me I pay for my seat.
Speaker 1:I would. I would probably be like sure, but do you mind yeah?
Speaker 2:And you're not going to have to send me whatever 29, 39, 49, $59, it is for this seat. You're going to have to send me something. I say you know what?
Speaker 1:you should have did. That would have been more funny. You should have been like I would have put my sunglasses on.
Speaker 2:Put them on her, put them on her headphones on. But me personally, I'm not joking with you and I think y'all think I'm joking, but I would seriously be like you know, you know what I hear, what you're saying. But I actually did pay for this seat because I too enjoy watching the plane land or just looking out the window from time to time and also being able to control the shade. So if you would like, that's actually the real. Yeah, I just want to have that shit open the whole flight.
Speaker 1:The sun is out and, oh my God, I want to hit them people in the face. I'm not going to lie to you, I'd be like son you know it's so funny, I'm gonna post this video.
Speaker 2:We was going either coming or going from Puerto Rico and this man was looking out the window. But it was light outside and he was just looking out the window. He had his phone recording out the window and everything I put the window shape how high it was recorded.
Speaker 2:because I said I'm not about to keep this up. You got your video or whatever. And I put the window straight down, like it was literally me with the window, the guy and then Deji in the end, and I said he was tweaking though, because he had his phone the whole time. I said you want the people to know you coming, they gonna know you coming where you get there. And I put the thing down so I would tell that white lady I mean I could, but I actually I would have no problem with switching, and then only if she would pay me for the seat. That's the only way, especially if I paid for it. If I just randomly got this seat, then I'm definitely not moving because I believe in the luck of the draw.
Speaker 1:Did I tell you I randomly got an economy plus seat the other day with the extra leg room?
Speaker 2:Yes, I remember. It was when you was coming home from your trip, right?
Speaker 1:That should almost make me want, always wanted me to but I was like this is what I will all my head. I was like I would pay for this. Yeah, the amount of leg room, yeah.
Speaker 2:I feel like, because I know, because I know for a fact I'm going to be taking a trip this year for my birthday, I kind of just want to like splurge on like first class or you know, like making sure that I have the most comfortable trip this time around. But yeah, like I wouldn't give a fine fuck in February. Bitch, if you want to jump baby, to have this window seat, you should have paid for it like everybody else or like me, because one thing about it I feel like it's entitlement and I'm not here to give nobody.
Speaker 1:It's not entitlement.
Speaker 2:People ask it's okay to ask yeah. Or you know, like when people, when you get to the seat and somebody already sitting in there like, oh, yeah, like, would you would you mind? Yes, I would move Rosa Parks, get your ass up, the fuck, you know, I would you would you mind? Just I, just, I just would you mind? Just, no, I would get your ass up. I'm bad, though, because you, just you would allow it Me.
Speaker 1:I'm not allowed. No, I cause I'll. I'll be like, oh damn Cause. I remember this one time I was on a plane with this granny and she was like. This is the first time I'm flying to New York to see my family and she's like I'm kind of a little bit nervous. I stayed up with that lady the whole time.
Speaker 2:Oh, you wanted to go to sleep Like a month.
Speaker 1:I was like wow. But she's like oh, thank you, you made me feel so much better. I was like yeah, but I'm tired.
Speaker 2:It didn't do nothing for you. It didn't do nothing for you.
Speaker 1:It didn't make me feel no better than nothing.
Speaker 2:I was just like I made you feel better, but I feel worse, yeah, and that was a terrible weekend for us.
Speaker 1:So it was just I was exhausted.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it just set the. It set the course for the weekend. I was also going to say I remember I was on one flight and somebody, baby, was doing all this I don't mind the crying cause they're babies but was doing this kicking on my seat or something like that, and I had to keep saying something over my breath, like, but I feel like next time I went, you know, as black people, we really need to take our power back. And I feel like this is even just like a testament to the stories we was telling before, like, speak the fuck up. Like you was petty, which you'll, you know which your approach, and I was just you know, like whatever.
Speaker 2:But speak the fuck up for yourself. Don't let these people make you feel like, oh yeah, I can just give up my seat. Or yeah, I can just stay up this whole flight and make you feel comfortable, even though it puts me at ease. Or oh yeah, I can just like, joe, baby, kick me in the back of the seat for this two hour flight. Speak the fuck up. So I don't really wish. I pre on everything I love. I don't really plan on taking too many trips this year, but like, if I do take a trip on a flight and the flight don't break down cause all these planes keep breaking down and bussing open or whatever the fuck. I really hope somebody would ask me you know, ma'am, ma'am, if I get here with the ma'am, I'm gonna be like, listen here, karen, and I'm gonna hit him with the. You you could, you could surely, surely pay for this seat $100 to my sale, thank you.
Speaker 2:So thank you so much for listening to today's episode of the podcast. Nothing but a G thing. If you are following us on our social media, thank you. If you aren't, why? Why not? We are on Instagram and Twitter nothing, n O, t, h I N G. Capital B, capital A, capital G, capital T. We are on TikTok at nothing. Spelled all the way out Capital B, capital A, capital G, thank. So nothing. And then B A G thing, t I N G. I am also on social media Instagram and Twitter at Suki G's S U K I G, double E Z, because I make everything that I do look twice as easy, and I'm also on TikTok at DJ Suki G's. So that's DJ S U K I G, double E Z.
Speaker 1:As for myself, you can follow me on Twitter or X and IG under the same username, which is the RN. The letter N B underscore I'm sorry the R and B thug underscore daegee. Side note, we are working on some new segments, so you should be on the lookout for that. Apparently, we got some good response for good good, so we might have figure out a way to incorporate.
Speaker 2:Oh yes, look lyric interpretations. Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 1:So we'll probably be adding that to the show. Yeah, we might be doing some other things as well.
Speaker 2:Oh, we got. We always got something coming. We like we're always working on something. I was going to say something but I forgot the YouTube page.
Speaker 2:YouTube as well. Oh yeah, youtube as well. We are going to be dropping. We started a new series on nothing but a G thing. It's called tones. It's where we have me personally, I have some of my friends that are DJs and we are like just turning up in a crib. So I have my friends that are DJing, doing like quick 30 minute sets. We have our friends. It's music, it's color, and we're setting the tone for 2024 and we're just, we're just about like community building. So yeah, but that wasn't what I wanted to say, and that's that's going to be on our YouTube channel. Nothing but a G thing. Put us in the YouTube church, and you should. You shall see us.
Speaker 1:I thought, yeah, where it's nothing BAGT, yes.
Speaker 2:Okay, cool, cool.
Speaker 1:That's all we got. Don't beat your kids, and if you do,