Silver tounges, scamming, and going on trips with no plans or budget, this is how you get a soft life...
Silver tounges, scamming, and going on trips with no plans or budget, this is how you get a soft life...
Because ain't nothing but a cheap bang baby to low down G. So we crazy Death grow against the label that pays man Unfatable. So please don't try to fake this. But I'm back to the lecture at hand. Back to the lecture, or legend, at hand. Today's story is going to be a bit interesting because, if you will follow me and Yemi, we know how to enjoy life, and enjoy life to the fullest. Some of you might ask how I do, Maybe not you. I know I enjoy life to the fullest From what you see on what we share on our social medias and if you've been able to interact with us in real life, how's that fake life if we've experienced it? Instagram is fake.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying my Instagram is fake. I'm just saying like.
Speaker 1:Instagram. So my birthday parties fake or real?
Speaker 2:I'm not saying you're Instagram, I'm just saying like Instagram in general, why are we talking about general, and this is a story about me and you. Excuse me. How can I let you continue then?
Speaker 1:I'm just saying. I'm confused when we speak in generalities, when this is an antidote about me and you're just past.
Speaker 2:Yeah, sure, Sure, sure sure.
Speaker 1:Continue. Sure, damn, now I lost my turn. I thought so. If you paid attention to our lives, whether it's via social media, whether you've actually been there, enjoying life in all its aspect is something that I guess I would say we'd love to do. There's been so many times where people have comment on a video that I've taken of Yemi, because I am secretly her videographer and I just don't get the same in return.
Speaker 2:I don't think that should be a secret. If you want the job, you should take the job and fully commit I don't want the job. Oh OK.
Speaker 1:It should just be something that we do for one another, but Yemi doesn't. She seems to be a little self-centered.
Speaker 2:I don't think that's true.
Speaker 1:I don't know, because every time I ask for a photo, you'd be like this is this, is this is you. You try to be sexist and you say this is what this is.
Speaker 2:You as a boy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's and that's what I'm saying. So, yemi makes it very difficult for me to get a photo, as you can see. But back, shumbo, back to the subject matter at Han, because I can't get a photo.
Speaker 2:I just feel like there has to be a way for men to say certain things and I don't know, I don't want anyone to be like oh so can you sexist or nothing, or like that. But, you are Hearing a man be like oh my.
Speaker 1:Let me get a photo.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, I wasn't even going to mention that, even though that's what we're talking about, like hearing a man say oh, I'm about to get my hair done.
Speaker 1:How else would you say that? I'm about to get my hair braided, I'm about to get a haircut? Yeah, see what I'm saying Sexist. That don't even make sense. And you follow a whole bunch of influencers who are gay.
Speaker 2:Oh, so what are you trying to say? Are you trying to?
Speaker 1:For you to make that.
Speaker 2:Are you trying to smear my name?
Speaker 1:No, I'm not, Because I was literally just saying.
Speaker 2:sometimes it sounds crazy, it just sounds crazy. But it's like Yemi, take a picture of me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yemi take a picture of me. You're the one.
Speaker 2:You shouldn't need that many pictures. You're a man, men don't really take too many pictures.
Speaker 1:You're lying to yourself. There's male models, so what do you say to them?
Speaker 2:People take pictures of them professionally.
Speaker 1:Models are professional, so are you saying that a man should just have no catalog for their life?
Speaker 2:I don't know what I'm saying is when you asked me to take pictures of you.
Speaker 1:Which is not often. Well that's the point.
Speaker 2:That's subjective. What are we talking about?
Speaker 1:today. The story I was going to get into is that Yemi and I have lived a life that I would say shows a lot of intentionality, a lot of fruits to the labor, but also it shows a certain aspect of this coined term that is called soft life, whether you see us traveling the world and enjoying some of the fine dining that we have or some of the experiences that we have gotten to experience. Some might say we are scammers, some might say I've never heard that before.
Speaker 2:Some might say I've never heard a money say I'm a scammer.
Speaker 1:I don't work. Some might say how much money do you really make and what do you really do? Yes, let's talk about that. Others might just say it's because you don't pay no rent. Some might say it's because you live at home. No, and do you have to have somebody footing your life? Whether that's you basically calling us some sugar babies At the end of the day, ain't shit sweet over here. Ain't shit sweet over here At the end of the day, the subject matter is that, in order to obtain a soft life, you didn't have to take a very hard road.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I'm going to say you have to have a hard life or you can get to a soft life.
Speaker 1:And that is what we are talking about today. I like that.
Speaker 2:I like that, I like that.
Speaker 1:I like that.
Speaker 2:So let's address the things that you said.
Speaker 1:Yeah, of course the start.
Speaker 2:The thing you said was people may think that we're scammers.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:Oh, mommy, I can't go to jail, though I cannot go to jail, so I won't even do anything that will put me in the position to go to jail.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:That's me.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:All the money I make, I make it legally. I can go to the place and collect my money.
Speaker 1:So are you saying you've never hit a jug before, you've never finessed?
Speaker 2:No, I've definitely finessed, but that was like I've definitely hit a couple licks, that's what to say, did you?
Speaker 1:That's a story for another day.
Speaker 2:I would never tell the stories of all the times I was stealing.
Speaker 1:No, y'all have to pay for it. That's what I'm saying. Like I would have to come with a Patreon.
Speaker 2:With the Patreon, but also we'll have to come with some money behind it because I can't just be telling y'all how I used to do for free. That's crazy. But yeah, I feel like now, in my most recent adult life, I don't have to hit no jugs no more, because I know where my money is coming from, I know how much is coming every so often and the times that I don't know that's still legal money that I make it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's never been scammed me on for me since I started working for real. Yeah.
Speaker 1:OK, so that's the first thing, and I'm in the same positioning of you.
Speaker 2:But the soft. So how does that first? So we said scamming is not a part of our story. Correct, but it was, and that's why we have a soft life now, because scamming was a hardship.
Speaker 1:Yes, bad, any jug you could think of. Man I used to. There's a reason why I have this silver tongue.
Speaker 2:What is a silver tongue?
Speaker 1:You've never heard of silver tongue before.
Speaker 2:No, silver back Like a gorilla. No.
Speaker 1:Google it.
Speaker 2:You going to tell us?
Speaker 1:No, google it, so the people know what a silver tongue is.
Speaker 2:Oh, you want me to say the definition?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a commonly used phrase and I've never heard of it. Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2:OK, silver tongue A tendency to be eloquent and persuasive in speaking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that used to be me. I used to get most things.
Speaker 2:I've never heard of that before and I feel like I can do some talking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what I'm trying to tell you, I definitely used to get away with murder and I used to get a lot of what I needed without paying for it. I had to. Privilege how is that privileged?
Speaker 2:You have, you were privileged.
Speaker 1:Yummy, we used to have to find rides to school, but you were privileged.
Speaker 2:They were like you had privilege growing up.
Speaker 1:What privilege did I have?
Speaker 2:You were an athlete. That gave you privilege. You were a good athlete at that. You're a black man. You were privileged. I don't want to tell you too much, because some people be acting confused about things, just so you can tell them, so they can boost their ego. I'm not saying that's what you're doing At this moment, I'm just saying. Sometimes people have the tendency to do that.
Speaker 1:Unfortunately, you have not been that type of person to me in a while.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I won't continue today. So I don't know. I'm not confused. You know who, you are Sure and you know that you have privilege.
Speaker 1:But the privilege you talk about at the time. But my silver tongue used to get both of us rides to school. At the boarder I used to sit in the back seat of any people car, graciously Right. So I'm not negating it. But this leads.
Speaker 1:It's because of that and we're giving you all the story. Part of the hard road right, the trips that we had to take, depending on other people besides our parents, just to get to school. Right, if you knew me back, when there wasn't a thing that you could keep around me, that wouldn't have been took Now I mean people know that to this day. What do you talk about?
Speaker 2:Because I'd complain about you and your inability to leave my stuff alone.
Speaker 1:That's food, yummy. You could eat my food all you want, I don't want to.
Speaker 2:I want to eat my food, but we can talk about that another day.
Speaker 1:I was about to say you being a dead horse. Have you heard that one before?
Speaker 2:I've heard that one before, but the only reason why I'm being a dead horse is because I feel like people want me to shift my thinking as opposed to meeting me where I'm at. If I'm asking you not to eat my stuff, don't eat it. Don't say it's just food, it's my food.
Speaker 1:And you laughing like it's funny.
Speaker 2:I'm being so serious, Like I feel like I don't ask for too much.
Speaker 1:You ask for everything but the things I do ask for. You've been nagging me for the last month about something I fixed almost six weeks ago and you didn't even pay attention.
Speaker 2:And then you kept nagging me, I was bringing it up.
Speaker 1:I kept bringing it up after the fact because it took me like two weeks.
Speaker 2:Excuse me. Besides that fact, I've been asking these folks since I was old enough to say please stop eating my food. To stop eating my food.
Speaker 1:And you know what?
Speaker 2:They're on the side of you should just be OK with it, as opposed to honoring their sister and just leaving her stuff alone.
Speaker 1:You know all of your brothers. You just heard me tell the whole story, but I was putting us rides for the last two years of when I was in high school, y'all.
Speaker 2:So I should be indebted to you and I should let you in my chip. No.
Speaker 1:But you see how one-sided this is. I be trying to tell people that Yemi might be a great person, but she is one of the most one-sided individuals in my life. Aren't you so fortunate to have two brothers that have done everything for you? Now I'm not saying that, hello.
Speaker 2:Let's continue with the hard life. Because I feel like people really don't know that our lives, but people really don't know that also individually, your life and my life have been hard and I feel like a lot of the things that I have gone through I necessarily don't speak about. Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:I agree.
Speaker 2:I think that because you don't speak about them, or because you don't make a big deal about certain things, people feel like that's not your story.
Speaker 1:So you saying no, I actually know your story very well. Yeah, I'm not disregarding that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Because we both feel like they not saying you specifically, but I just feel like in general, people will take credit for a lot of the things but also not understand that you have lived life too.
Speaker 1:I don't want to take credit for anything that you've done, but I just want to. I want Celebration. That's what I want. Kindness, that's what I want. You know those things. That's how you can reciprocate anything that you achieve. Just give it back to me in kindness. I don't even need to thank you for gratitude, I just want to know that we good. You feel me.
Speaker 2:I feel like I'm kind. You know, like when people talk about like nice versus.
Speaker 1:To whom?
Speaker 2:I think I'm kind.
Speaker 1:To whom?
Speaker 2:Well, in general, if it's being nice or being kind. I wouldn't say no, I'm not nice. I would say that I do have some kindness in me because I think niceness is not selective. And, yeah, I feel like I'm kind, but is it in my nature to be nice first? Not always, but I feel like anytime I actually have the intention, I am very kind.
Speaker 1:Sure yeah, broken road, let's get to that. Back to that.
Speaker 2:So we said scamming. What was the second thing that you said? Do you remember?
Speaker 1:I said some might say we're scammers and then say some might say what do you do and how do you actually?
Speaker 2:make this money Right, right, right. So let's talk about that. Well, because we're talking about how to get us off life. It has to come from.
Speaker 1:Well, I bust my ass. I'm a hustler by birth. Our parents have a grocery store.
Speaker 2:Even before that they had a restaurant.
Speaker 1:Mom and mom had a restaurant. My dad had a couple jobs before.
Speaker 2:You know, one thing I will say is that them people know how to make money. Not only that, but when I think about my mama came here with a baby on her hip and a work visa, if that Like if she even had any papers?
Speaker 1:Yeah right.
Speaker 2:And to see where I'm at now.
Speaker 1:Both of our parents.
Speaker 2:To see where they're at and to see where I'm at. Nobody can tell me shit, because I've already succeeded and I've already To be honest if our children aren't millionaires.
Speaker 1:I don't want to put that on.
Speaker 2:I don't have to be millionaires. That can be thousandaires. That can just make enough money to live comfortably. But they're going to live comfortably regardless, because I'm going to live comfortably. But I'm just saying for me I've already done what I needed to do. Everything else that I do now is just extra.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So what you're saying is that you've actualized on your parents' idea of what the American dream is.
Speaker 2:I've already done that. I've already. The American dream is sown and now I'm living, Correct.
Speaker 1:And you did all that without a master's degree, who, and we nine during who. So Everyone.
Speaker 2:I think about going back to school just to get the master's, just for like. Better add an extra, not even to get the money, because I looked at.
Speaker 1:No, I would do it for the money. That's the only reason why I would do it.
Speaker 2:I looked at how much the average person makes with the master's degree from DePaul. But, right, and I make more than that.
Speaker 1:OK, that's what I said you would.
Speaker 2:So it's not even worth it to me to get it. But I was just saying more so for like, bragging rights and just to say like I've accomplished something, because I really don't think that.
Speaker 1:What is the bragging rights in a master's? I?
Speaker 2:mean it's just more so, not even like to brag outside, but it's more so just for me, like to have that accomplishment because I don't need it. Perfectly and I don't see the point in it, but I feel like for me it may be something to consider, just for to say I actually did something, because I'm not really too impressed with the accomplishments that I have now.
Speaker 1:But I feel like maybe that one would make a difference just because we could touch that later, because I know I was going to touch that later in this episode. Because don't, don't, don't do that, don't do that in the mic. Yeah, I was about to eat a chip and she don't see, I'm the sound man you're going to be chewing all up in my ear.
Speaker 2:I was going back away from the mic.
Speaker 1:Thank, you, but like Jimmy said, hustler by no, I would have heard it Hustler by birth. We both work in corporate America.
Speaker 2:I said, my checks come every two weeks.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I'm OK with that and corporate America.
Speaker 1:You can do well in corporate America. I tell people this really humbly as long as you're in a really good industry and if you bust your butt, there's no way you don't get upward mobility, and upward mobility don't got to be in that company. I feel like people got to be more quick to move.
Speaker 2:These jobs want you to be loyal to them.
Speaker 1:They don't got to be.
Speaker 2:Honestly, the reason why I'm in the position that I am now is because I left my last job and it was comfortable. I mean, the job was cool, it was comfortable. But, I was not going to see that number that I have now If I stayed at my job.
Speaker 1:Just think about this Any job you leave, you'll probably easily get anywhere from 15% to 20% that was just live.
Speaker 2:They don't know how much you make, just live.
Speaker 1:Well, no, I heard of and this is game. So Yemi and I was talking to our old lady. I shouldn't say that Seasoned woman, that sounds worse. Why does her age matter? Because she had a lot of experience.
Speaker 2:That's why I'm saying that, oh OK, someone with experience.
Speaker 1:Yes. So a woman with a lot of experience in corporate America told us that the way people think about corporate America is incorrect. You shouldn't stay with a company thinking that you are entitled and due to promotions because you've been there for so long and you've done so much. Move, Move, that's it. Every two to three years. Move If they don't give you a raise and I'm not talking about, no, oh, 2%, 3% If they're not giving you at least 15 to 20k more in a year, which means you should be at least getting an extra $1,000 a month. Believe you should at least be getting an extra Leave.
Speaker 2:Believe.
Speaker 1:Believe.
Speaker 2:Yeah, move and leave at the same time.
Speaker 1:Move and leave at the same time Believe. And then I was talking in this program that I did through my job and somebody got some guy who was leading the workshop. He said look, regardless of what happens at this job, whatever job you go to, just add 20% to what you was getting paid, because you're always getting underpaid when they first offer you money. So say this if you was making $100,000 a year, when you ask for your desired range, you should be at least asking for a 120, if not more. Whatever that's it, plain and simple. Put 20% onto whatever you was last getting paid, because that means usually when you go for a job that is not horizontal, you should get paid more, but they'll do some shit where they'll be like oh, this is the range.
Speaker 1:If they really want you, they'll pay For sure.
Speaker 2:And what was the last thing you said? Oh, we don't, we live with, we don't have to pay rent.
Speaker 1:So we hustle, we work corporate market, we hustle and we have pretty steady income in both those areas. And then you said we don't pay rent, we don't pay rent and with that that's very simple I save over half my check. So I have a really big savings and we give all glory to God for that, because I don't save my check.
Speaker 2:I won't let you.
Speaker 1:But it's different.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would say I don't really.
Speaker 1:I'd be wondering where my money be going for real, like I really do, but I feel like Trying to get you right and then you'd be like, mind you, no, dude, do that.
Speaker 2:Do that Because I feel like my spending habits have not changed for real. But are you saving money, as the point that sounds like a no. No, I mean I do put more money in my savings, Like the amount of money that I deposit strictly into like one bank account that I don't touch for real. That increased, sure. But the money that goes in there also gets taken out every month from my car note.
Speaker 1:I always just put it like this. I make it really simple. If you look at a course of a year and you work in a job, your goal should be at least to save $10,000 in a year. I know that sounds ridiculous, but that's like $400 or $500 a month. Well, I'm sorry, yeah, because you got 26 checks in a year. So realistically, if you're saving 500, 500 times 25, that's about 555. I think that's about 55. Am I right? No, that's about 11.5. Hold on, I'm going to use my calculator.
Speaker 2:Honestly, it don't matter, just like we have, you know, and it's 12.5.
Speaker 1:So $500 a check, if you can foot it.
Speaker 2:If you can foot that, that's a lot of money. That's about 500 a check. That's somebody's rent.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, that's what I said, if you can foot it, but anything close, because over time, certain months you'll be able to save more, certain months you're going to save less. Blah, blah, blah, all those things.
Speaker 2:Anything could come up. Because one thing I got a bump in my tire that should cost me like $300.
Speaker 1:Exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2:And I couldn't imagine if I had to pay bills and this.
Speaker 1:But the one thing I'm going to start doing this year is actually saving for travel. Like I'm literally as soon as we done with everything we're doing, I'm actually going to open up an account just to put that.
Speaker 1:So I don't even not that I ever worry about travel, but because I travel so much and I'm fixated on making sure that I'm able to enjoy it, I'm just going to make sure I stack money away in there, and if I have a lot of money, I have a lot of money in it, and I think that's just something I need to do, because some more I don't know why I said that. I just think it's important to make sure that A if you go on travel which I always do you always enjoy it. But what I'm starting to learn is that I save up to, but then I'm spending that money on the trip. You know what I'm saying. So then, when I look at my credit card statement, it's like, oh, I saved for this trip, but then like, where's the dollars that I have to do to pay back for the credit card? You feel me, because I paid for all the expenses beforehand and I don't think about the actual trip. You know what I'm saying Right, because once you get there.
Speaker 1:You got food, you got ice.
Speaker 2:We always going to eat good when we travel.
Speaker 1:No, I don't do nothing else.
Speaker 2:We're going to drink good and that costs money. We're going to try to immerse ourselves in the experience as much as possible. 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but, like we said, able to do that because we don't pay rent.
Speaker 2:So that's $500 to maybe $2,000 that we save every month.
Speaker 1:Discretionary income. You feel me? Our discretionary income is very.
Speaker 2:Disposable.
Speaker 1:Disposable. It's bigger than most people's.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know where I'm going to be going. I feel like between October to January I was but you have a lot of things.
Speaker 1:You have holidays yes, you have Thanksgiving. You have Halloween, thanksgiving, christmas, yeah, and New Year's Eve and we went to.
Speaker 2:We did two trips in. October, slash November.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Then, like you said, thanksgiving, christmas your birthday.
Speaker 1:Yeah, my birthday.
Speaker 2:Christmas, new Year's, yeah, that birthday party that I celebrated, or that birthday that I celebrated in January. So I spent a lot of money. It was just. I'm just now getting above water to where my credit card bill is paid. Before the statement.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, but I feel like this one thing I was thinking about is people would look at us and feel like we're privileged because we're in our late 20s and still live at home with our parents. I count it as a blessing, but people would count that as a. I mean, yeah, you wouldn't be where you at if you didn't have that opportunity. And I'm like damn, I mean I can't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I feel like people I can't. You know we didn't pick the straws. But also I feel like if your parents is making you pay rent and you live with them, that's kind of shady.
Speaker 2:And let's. I know people do that just so they can save the money, and then they'll give it back to them. But like, yeah, I mean as an adult, I wouldn't be.
Speaker 1:Unless your parents really need it, and I mean, you know, if your mom needed, that's completely different. But, like, if your parent we don't, we don't make At this age, what are we really making our parents? It's just the fact that they want more money for themselves. You feel me, because we buy our own groceries, but they was paying them bills when we wasn't in the house.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we were gone from the house. Both of us were gone from the house for three years.
Speaker 1:And it was just them two. Yeah me four years.
Speaker 2:What was it four years?
Speaker 1:How long did you go to college for?
Speaker 2:For four years, but when I was done, you had one year where you were in the house by yourself, and then I came back.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I was gone for four years.
Speaker 2:So was I, but I was still at home when you left. So, it was only three years of overlap that we were in college at the same time.
Speaker 1:Oh, I forgot that you're a year behind me. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't know what they was doing, but it couldn't have been fun.
Speaker 1:But that's what I'm trying to say, like, there's a lot of things that, when you think about it, they love that work here.
Speaker 2:They might not admit it, but they literally love it.
Speaker 1:It makes their life so much easier.
Speaker 2:Yes, like I know, that for Like them three years. They was probably so sad Dad was probably stressed.
Speaker 1:He's like I gotta take this woman everywhere.
Speaker 2:My mama would call me every Saturday night.
Speaker 1:She would call me Saturday in the morning, Every Saturday night. Well, actually I lied. She called me Friday morning because she knew I'd be playing football on.
Speaker 2:Saturday, Saturday. My mama would call me every Saturday night like just to see what I was doing, and sometimes I'll be drunk at the bar. She'd be like be safe. Oh, just go home, you don't need to be outside. I'm a girl, I'm lit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, my mom would literally sit and talk to me for three, four hours. Our relationship had never been better.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying. Once we get out the house, I'm sure it will be better, but like right now, it's just she be complaining because Ali Broccoli in the fridge and I don't have time for that.
Speaker 1:And that was so funny because I think about my routine, because, like senior year, I lived off campus. So like I would literally be on campus Monday through Thursday and I would never show up on Fridays, unless I would only show up for our walkthroughs, like Friday. Monday through Thursday, I'd be at campus down there to like eight or ten and I would just begin my work done. But that Friday, when I would have to show up, I would show up like two or three hours, do whatever homework I had left, and then I would literally talk to mom and I'd be like I got to go. But it was cool, it was part of the routine. I'm looking forward to that when I have to come back out here every Sunday.
Speaker 1:What are you going to be? To be determined.
Speaker 2:So To be determined, yeah so. I think we addressed all the four things but like, okay, so now let's talk about. We talked about hardship and how we made it.
Speaker 1:We didn't really talk about hardship, but we don't need to get into our lives. It's not a show.
Speaker 2:No, I'm saying like, I'm saying so how do you, how are you so soft life? What does soft life look like as it pertains to us and the stuff that we have shown to people, because some people don't follow us on social medias?
Speaker 1:You're right. I think if you look at our lives, you see a lot of I like to call it like the everyday superstar, right, like it always seems like we are at the right party or at the right event, we always got on the freshest gear, and it also seems that we also have a energy where people feel very drawn to us.
Speaker 2:I would say that, out of all the things you said, because I don't be wearing the freshest stuff- I'm really trying to like figure out what my style is. I mean, I always look good when I go out, but I just it takes a long time for me to actually like put outfits together, because my style is just all over the place and I'm trying to.
Speaker 1:It's because it's everything.
Speaker 2:I feel like sometimes people don't.
Speaker 1:If your style is everything, let it be everything. It's just whatever you feel on that day.
Speaker 2:Literally whatever I feel like wearing on that day, and it's really determined by the space that I'm going to be in. And if you're in new spaces and you're around new people. It's whatever, but I feel like, yeah, like we just want to create the energy and have. If I'm leaving the house, I want to make sure that I'm leaving it to have a good time for enjoyment, because I could most definitely be in the house in a bit enjoying life, because that's what I do the best.
Speaker 2:I'm a cancer. We love home, so yeah, I just feel like and even when we take trips, I'd be soft life, everything Like if it's the nicest hotel that I could find at the best rate, if it's Uber everywhere, if it's get a car, if it's making sure we stay at a nice resort. I'm all about that. You laughing because you don't be on that. You be trying to save money.
Speaker 1:No on certain things. I feel like it's better. Like Uber, I don't really care about If the city got a scooter. I'm going to ride the scooters all throughout the year.
Speaker 2:That's nothing to do with the soft life.
Speaker 1:Being adventurous. That's the best. Living on the wild side, honestly, that's the best way to travel. A city, no cap, you don't really have to obey traffic, you get to go into neighborhood and, honestly, they go like 30 miles per hour so you get anywhere you need to at a pretty decent place, as long as you stay within the city limits. Correct the city area.
Speaker 1:Correct. But the hotel part, I'm with you. I just always think it's funny because we're like polar opposites in that regard. But what I'm learning now? Because I had a great idea, because I was listening to our last podcast, which was where we talked about grab them, usher tickets and you talked about how the things I complain about cost money, and I was like you said we could get two different hotels and you talked about we would have to travel back and forth. But I was like why won't we just get two separate rooms in the same hotel?
Speaker 2:What is this about? What do you mean? When did I say we was going to have to get two different hotels?
Speaker 1:In the grab them tickets episode or grab them usher. What were you talking about? You were talking about red flags of a hotel.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what about them? And then you were like I always have to accommodate for dates you, because we end up staying in the same room. And then I was like, well, we could just get two separate rooms.
Speaker 2:But that's oh like I mean yeah, because I like to fall asleep with the TV on and but you see how I just had that idea.
Speaker 1:But I'm saying one.
Speaker 2:We save more money when we book them together.
Speaker 1:Correct.
Speaker 2:And then you know it's usually. It usually comes down to like not the accommodations once we're in the actual hotel, but actually booking it because I'd be ready to book as soon as I know I'm going somewhere. And Daisy wants to wait till the last minute because he needs to know about his schedule. He needs.
Speaker 1:These are all very valid.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, not really, because you know you know I have somewhere to sleep you know that and you know as soon as we book that we're going to need a place to stay, yeah. And then, the last minute, I will send you hotel after hotel and then you're like, yummy, you're trying to spend too much money on a hotel, but the hotel even though you you don't usually spend a lot of time at the hotel that's like your getaway. That should be a part of the soft life experience is making sure that the hotel that you stand in is worth staying in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because when we went to North Carolina, that hotel that we stayed in was busted, crushed it.
Speaker 1:Which one do we stand?
Speaker 2:exactly, you don't even remember.
Speaker 1:But I never remember any of the hotels I really stayed in. You remember that hotel?
Speaker 2:we stayed in when we went to seek KTranada, because that was a nice ass hotel. I booked it. The W yeah, but you use your points Okay, but when you have to pay, you'd be ready to stay at the Motel 6.
Speaker 1:Hey, all you need is a bed to sleep on. Fuck, I don't feel like that.
Speaker 2:That's negative, that's man activity, that's man business. I don't feel like that Okay. So we talked about okay so soft life for you is just sleeping in any bed, and soft life for me is making sure that if I'm going on a trip. I'm making the most out of the trip because I got a bed at home.
Speaker 1:You're going to stop hitting this mic. Don't worry about it. I would say that a soft life for me when it comes to whatever in general, right when we talk about trips, for me it's always been about the experience. I spare no expense. I'm going to pay for it honestly, because I'm going to be like I always do that. When we were at Dreamville did I buy that damn whatever jacket? Yeah, I bought it when we were in. I was like that's a clothing item.
Speaker 2:What are we talking about? Experience, are you talking about? That was part of the experience.
Speaker 1:What else did we do in North Carolina? Think about any event.
Speaker 2:A motherfucking thing, that place was terrible.
Speaker 1:Okay, then when we were in Atlanta, yeah, anytime we go to Atlanta we spend a lot of money. Okay, that's it, then. New York Spent a lot of money. Did we spend a lot of money? Yes, we was out every day till 7 o'clock. We were spending money.
Speaker 2:We was just getting started with the kids on the corner.
Speaker 1:Sure, DC. We bought a whole Hennessy punch that was for six people. We drank it too. I was fucked up for the rest of the day at Broccoli Fest and the weather was ass.
Speaker 2:That was a terrible experience. But you see, they changed the date to Broccoli Fest. They made it towards the summer. That's OK. The lineup is trash. They got Ghana. You know whose lineup is actually DC.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we've seen Ghana.
Speaker 2:Dreamville's lineup is actually DC.
Speaker 1:I don't think so, me and Alex the other day, and we was talking about it, I was like you saying the other day like it wasn't yesterday. Yes, you were. I went to this immersive experience. That was my first immersive experience for a DJ. I was very happy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can see DJ Sugijis doing that.
Speaker 1:We have to do that, or Sugijis Just Sugijis. No, we have to.
Speaker 2:Well, make it happen, captain. Ok, so you were saying. You were saying what were?
Speaker 1:you saying I care about the experience, think about what we went to Antica. We'd even buy excursions ahead of time. You were like I want to do this this. I was like, ok, cool, I'm here, I'm for it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I, once we get there yeah, we fully be getting ourselves into it, but beforehand. But the problem is, you don't ever plan nothing, and that's the annoying thing about it, Because most things you don't have to plan no no, no, that's annoying. That's also annoying, Like soft life for me is being prepared and planning stuff out, Like when I go on a trip somewhere I want to. These are the food places that I want to go to, OK that's interesting.
Speaker 1:These are the night clubs that I want to go to.
Speaker 2:These are the events that I want to go to. This is the stuff that I want to do, and Deji's, more like, doesn't have anything planned and that's annoying. That's really annoying.
Speaker 1:But soft life for me is that I know I will have the money to do all of these things.
Speaker 2:It's not about having the money. It's about just not going somewhere and free balling, because then I'm left with the responsibility to find something for us to do, or else we won't be able to.
Speaker 1:But how many times do I strike up a conversation with somebody and they'll be like oh yeah, that's where you need to go, you do.
Speaker 2:I don't think you do that often. I really be looking at this stuff. Well, when I be on my and when you talk to them people, they be telling you oh yeah, this is where you need to go.
Speaker 1:So how do you go? So how are you telling you that this is what we need to do? So how do we go from? I don't do that often to them. Do these people be telling me?
Speaker 2:No, I'm saying like the rare times that you do talk to the people.
Speaker 1:Oh, because now I rarely ever talk to people.
Speaker 2:The chances, the times that you do talk to people and they actually tell you where you need to go. I'd be like yeah, Deji, that wasn't the stuff that I sent you on Instagram, or the stuff that I texted you, or it already be honestly, I would be honest when I be taking my solo trips.
Speaker 1:That's how I do it and it always works.
Speaker 2:Do that when you buy yourself, but when you with me, you need to start playing, and that's doing all the work and that's how it always works out.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you just got to be a citizen of the world. You feel me, but again, that's the male privilege. But yeah, that's a soft life for me.
Speaker 2:I just you know that that is your privilege showing, but that's.
Speaker 1:OK, so here.
Speaker 2:Can you have a soft life without privilege? Like you're not a privileged person.
Speaker 1:I think that this idea of soft life is very confusing to me, because everybody acts like conflict is bad and I have to be very candid because I'm like, as we just briefly touched, you can't get a soft life without having an incredibly hard life.
Speaker 2:It doesn't have to be incredibly hard, but you have to understand, struggle to have a soft life in some sort of aspect. You can't have a soft life if you've never had a hard life.
Speaker 1:Correct, Because then at that point you don't know what.
Speaker 2:Right, that's just life for you. Exactly, that's literally just life.
Speaker 1:So if that's the point and the case where, I guess, if that's the point we're making, I think this whole idea of that everybody deserves a soft life is it's very I don't want to say presumptuous, but it's it is Everybody deserves.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, you know anybody who's living right for sure.
Speaker 1:Yes, everybody does deserve, but the fact that everybody thinks that there's a sense of entitlement. I'm like nah, because I had to bust my ass to get here and y'all don't know the hardships.
Speaker 2:Really, nobody know the hardships that I had to go through just to be to where I'm at, because, if I told you, I got it out the mud you'd be like they wouldn't believe us, because they're like oh y'all, you two parent household you know your lineage, you grew up in the suburbs, you went to college, you have a job and I'm like all of that didn't come from nothing, like it's like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I just feel like some people have a perception of me Personally I'll speak for myself that they think that everything was peaches and cream, sunshines and rainbows, and I'm like, nah, that's just. I just live the way I live now Because I can't dwell on all of that stuff that happened to me. I literally have to just keep pushing and keep moving forward and realize that I'm literally living in all of that turmoil, that is now a clear water. I don't know. I'm trying to make an analogy. I'm literally living in the ocean that was once an oil spill.
Speaker 1:Woo, you got there.
Speaker 2:So that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:You got there, oh shit. Ok, Charlie says I was BP oil rig, but then we became the Pacific Ocean. Ok, I'm with you. I'm with you, I'm with you.
Speaker 2:So I mean, I don't have to talk about it too much, but I just feel like for me, soft life is realizing that that shit was there. This is now and I deserve to just live and be, you know, enjoy the fruits of my labor, because I was really like I always say every episode anytime Daddy talked about his life, he was out there going to PCB and San Antonio Spurs, and I was in the library studying.
Speaker 1:Sure yeah, he was at what?
Speaker 2:He was in Las Vegas, california, and I was studying, I was facing the books. I was in the library till 12 o'clock OK, they opened the gate. That's when I left. I was in the booth. I didn't take no spring break trips. I didn't take no winter break trips. I didn't take no fall break trips.
Speaker 1:I was working in the booths. I only took spring break. I didn't even do that. I was in the booth. So I'll say that we both had different college experiences. I deserve soft life.
Speaker 1:But when it came to the real world, I feel like your experience in the post-graduate world is, I won't never say, easier, but mine has been a motherfucker, honestly, and I wouldn't switch it. I wouldn't switch, but I guess I would say the realities of life. They hit me very hard, specifically in my profession, and that's why I said I think people don't understand. They're your personal life. Yeah, yeah, I keep telling people I didn't believe in Saturn's return, but I did not. But Saturn got a whole lot of revenge and that motherfucker is coming at me at every angle and that's not to woe is me, but that's my point about a soft life, the reason why people are able to enjoy these experiences, because it took us so long to get here.
Speaker 1:It took so much effort. If y'all understood the effort exerted and I'm not speaking for myself, this is actually a very general statement Anybody who is able to enjoy life and have a space for themselves that they have curated and that they call home and gives them peace of residence. It took a tremendous amount of effort Because, guess what, in order to find peace, you've got to know chaos, and that's the thing you have to be able to walk through that chaos and still know, at the end of the day, you still going to be Gucci. Those are things that people never consider. They see all this grand, they see all the laughs. Like I say, you was never with me shooting in the gym. People wasn't there when I was crying. People wasn't there when I was not myself. So, obviously, and you have a friend, she's the purest creative I've ever met. Shout out to Taylor, as she said, I don't want to celebrate the same way. I'm worn.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was real. She said that and it's literally been in my head.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and honestly I can't celebrate the same way.
Speaker 1:And, honestly, we need to get on the podcast. But I say this because this is real, when I took a look at my life and realized all the turmoil that we've been through. Right, because we're not even talking about the family dynamic. We have some of the things that we had to see growing up that made us mature at a very fast age and, on top of that, just the lack of just wear with all for our own livelihood as children in this new world that our parents were coming into to give us a better life.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I said to myself, if I don't celebrate life like I was meant to be here, I'm doing myself a disservice and a lot of the times I fall back on that. But what you learn in this process of life is that you move in extremes. I can't celebrate that hard and then be mad when I have these deep lows because I don't know the in-between and what I'm realizing is the soft lives is learning how to live in that in-between, and I think that says a lot of who I am, because I don't want the highs no more. I've been had it. I promise you for who I am in this lifetime I didn't seem more than my fair share.
Speaker 2:You're still going to get your highs, though.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I know there's more coming for it. Like I said, we got things planned y'all and if everything go according to plan, me and you and me are going to be having, actually, everybody that partakes in nothing but a G thing and tells their people about it y'all are going to have the time of your life. Y'all going to make memories that are going to transcend a lifetime. Y'all going to make some of the best friends in your whole entire life. I'm manifesting that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's crazy that you think that nothing but a G thing can do that for other people.
Speaker 1:Because we already built in the team and I see the people and I see their intentionality, but I also see what they really care about, and that's people. Whenever you have that as your focus, you can go a long way and I'm also praying over that. But that's just to say this soft life ain't nothing to be played with, bro. I feel like y'all got to understand what y'all saying and I want everybody to have a soft life. I really do, like I really enjoy seeing people at their most peaceful, happiest, joyous state. That's a beautiful thing, especially if you're a black person in this country and especially if you are a black woman. On top of that, obviously, I'm going to always advocate for our black man, because we get shyasted, but we do also have a lot of privilege and it's OK. Shit, I know I'm desirable by the masses, although they try to kill me more often than not. I have a way of schmoozing silver tongue in my way through things, and that's all I'm going to say.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I think for me soft life is just basking and my accomplishments.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And just I feel like for me for a while, for a minute, things were just hitting on all cylinders.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they was, yeah, they was.
Speaker 2:For a while things were just, you know.
Speaker 1:That season was crazy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was a good season for me and I feel like I was fully in it and I was just like, oh my goodness, life is good. I was literally just like life is good.
Speaker 2:And it's not bad now, but I just feel like I'm to the point to where I realized that that was a season and this is a season two and this season is going to have its situations that I have to deal with. But soft life for me is just being softer to myself and being softer to all the things around me, because I'm a hard-ass beach, like in life in general, with everything. Everything for me is just kind of like matter of fact, just black and white, seeing the glass half empty, and I just want to be. You know all the things that everyone else think are admirable things. I want those to happen for me too, not to say that I don't have admirable qualities, but I just want to show folks that there's another side to me that isn't resting bitch face.
Speaker 1:It's just my face.
Speaker 2:But if that was a manifestation of someone's character, I feel like that may be what certain people see of me and I don't want that to be it anymore. I want people to know that I'm a cancer and I feel everything. But because I had a hard life, the soft part of me is somewhere deep inside. Like you know, cancer is our crabs, the shell, the hard shell, but inside it's delicious goodness that is soft and if you dip us in butter we will show you a good time, ok.
Speaker 2:So, that's what I have to say about soft life.
Speaker 1:Soft life, chop life. Now everybody going eat breakfast.
Speaker 2:So next we'll move on to the next section, which is I never know which one comes first, if it's ghetto, intellectual or if it's things. I send Deji on Twitter. I feel like we can do things. I send Deji on Twitter first.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I don't either, but I know, as long as we do them, they work with me. Things I send Deji on Twitter.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what I'm doing. I'm looking for it.
Speaker 1:You forgot to do the thing. You say things. I send Deji on Twitter. That's what you do.
Speaker 2:Oh, ok, I don't remember me ever doing that. But did you see OK Things I send Deji on Twitter. I sent you a tweet. The date was six days ago and it's a Nio, nio.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, the mashup. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah. I sent that to you on Twitter, so it was the mashup of SZA's latest single, saturn, and Naio's song Saturn, which I'm not going to say which one is better than the other, although you could probably tell which one is.
Speaker 2:It's so crazy how like life is. You know like people are experiencing the same thing that you know.
Speaker 1:That I'm experiencing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because we're all you have a point of reference like this is not something that is just.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:But you believe in God and this is the stars. So what do you think about that?
Speaker 1:This is what I do. So if you're asking me how, I believe there's a. They're yummy. Stop hitting the mic and then you're gonna eat in front of you. What's going on? Damn, I wish we could record this because this is real crazy folks. But we'll be on YouTube eventually, hopefully sooner than I have a question. That's why I put the microwave. Okay, all right.
Speaker 1:So if you're asking me how I feel about Saturn, was it a song that I've been listening to and I relate to more and more as I listen to it? Yes, but to your point about me being a Christian, me being a Christian, there's reference. I don't think. That's why I sent it to you so you could start talking about religion. No, I wasn't gonna say. All I was gonna say is that rebirth is something that is part of the Bible. Right, we all progress, we all have to come back from whatever we came back from, but it's interesting how both of their songs are about the same thing, but from different viewpoints. But I also think, because we are the human race, we also forget that we share a lot of things in common, and suffering is one of those things, and we all go through a point of life where it seems like everything is beating our ass and nobody wants to admit it. They want to act like everything is perfect. But I'm gonna tell you, because I've been telling y'all Saturn's revenge is beating my ass.
Speaker 2:Saturn's return.
Speaker 1:I know what I said Saturn's revenge is beating my ass.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I also just think it was interesting that two artists that we love are talking about the same, or Naio talks about it and now Cis is talking about it, but just having that conversation or them just speaking to something that folks are experiencing. It's very interesting to me in the way that she was able to just sing the song and make it fit in.
Speaker 1:It was pretty cool, so yeah that was things I send Deji on Twitter. Maybe next week we'll do that for R&B Doug and actually break down the lyrics.
Speaker 2:Of Saturn.
Speaker 1:Yeah, both of them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that'll be cool. Got an intellectual question for you, Deji.
Speaker 1:What's up?
Speaker 2:Do you think?
Speaker 1:You ain't never been that hungry.
Speaker 2:No, I just like playing team chips.
Speaker 1:I know y'all, because y'all hate that when somebody's smacking your ear. You know what I'm saying Like that's what you do right now about ear is.
Speaker 2:Listeners are gonna hear a two-gap intellectual question for you, Deji.
Speaker 1:What's up?
Speaker 2:After how long of dating someone is it appropriate for you to poop at their house?
Speaker 1:So you're asking the wrong person.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I guess this doesn't really apply to Niggas, because y'all just do your business anywhere Correct?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a wrong, that's about.
Speaker 2:But okay, would you judge a girl if she came over to your house and pooped the first time she came over to your house?
Speaker 1:No, she a human being.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like I wouldn't judge nobody either. Honestly I wouldn't poop at nobody's house for the first time, just because that's just how I am, because I don't even really poop in public like that. If I have to go, really, really, really bad, yes I will go, but for the most part I like to do my business before I leave, or I'll hold it until I get home.
Speaker 1:I'm not with that.
Speaker 2:And never on the first link up. I won't even poop in public on the first link up.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I mean I'm unashamed. I'm very unashamed, I won't even blink. I'm very unashamed.
Speaker 2:I won't even yawn.
Speaker 1:Okay, anyways, I won't even breathe. That's what you're saying, basically. You ruined the joke Sure, no, I'm very unashamed, but that's just how introspective I am.
Speaker 2:That's just how much I'd be so worried about You're gonna let me get this out. What other people? Because, you're just coming out three times.
Speaker 1:I'm just doing this for the last episode because we talked about it the whole time, but all I was gonna say is I'm unashamed, and me being unashamed You're not too much shame. I just be like. It is what it is. I am like.
Speaker 2:So how long does the girl have to wait before she can be fighting around you?
Speaker 1:I mean it's not a big deal, Because you know I be farting a lot. I don't believe in holding in farts or shits or piss, because it's natural. It's natural. It's natural. But also I heard that like, if you hold that and don't quote me on this, but I hope.
Speaker 2:Somebody listened to what you say. As law, this is ghetto intellectual.
Speaker 1:But I'm saying I heard, if you hold all that stuff in, at least the colon and prostate cancer.
Speaker 2:That's probably not good for you to be holding all that stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, so I just be letting it go. But don't get me wrong If we've not built up a report.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can't just.
Speaker 1:But I don't, I don't do blind dates.
Speaker 2:It's not even about a blind date. It could be the first time Y'all met in person. Now y'all talking offline and you decided to go on a date.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like if she bubbleguts on a date.
Speaker 1:Well, I'd hope that you would just cancel and be like Am I stomaching all right? No, just make up and excuse, because I'm actually very, I'm actually like Understanding.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'd be like, damn, it's all right, it's good we are. Don't do that around me Like never, ever Go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1:Bubbleguts is a part of life.
Speaker 2:They are.
Speaker 1:I asked somebody who used to struggle with bubbleguts until I learned what I could.
Speaker 2:Chew his lactose.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's good to know your body. That's the thing that I think it may be Like you should know your body, but also like I just be thinking everything is.
Speaker 1:Is should just be. I thought you was about to ask about the other thing.
Speaker 2:No, we'll talk about that in another episode.
Speaker 1:Got it All right. Well then, I think we're done, we're done.
Speaker 2:Thank you for listening to us.
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Speaker 1:My socials is the same Twitter IG theRMB thug underscore D-E-J-I. Now we're probably going to do this at the beginning of the episode so we can get the most listenership, but Yemi, what we got going on this month.
Speaker 2:I don't know, did you? What do we have going on this month?
Speaker 1:We have this event called Dirty Damn going on this month. It should be March 24th, I believe.
Speaker 2:It's a Sunday.
Speaker 1:March 24th, on the Sunday, dirty Damn, come through at Engine Coffee Shop. Engine Coffee shop Get your dance sound from the Tamia to the Crank that Soulja Boy. Crank that Soulja Boy I was going to do.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Texas hold on. But I was going to do the left right. Let me see you do it.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, it's a line dancing class, so we're literally getting folks together who don't know dances, who want to learn dances, who want to be in community and just want to wear their denim on denim. They call it a cowboy suit. Yep, and we're just going to have a good time. It's going to be music, it's going to be people, it's going to be dance actual dance instructors.
Speaker 1:Two dance instructors.
Speaker 2:Yes, so we're doing that. So if you are in the Chicago land area and want to pop out, pop out, it's free.
Speaker 1:And we're going to have specialty cocktails too.
Speaker 2:I can't tell you what the name of the cocktails are, but we do have the names. It is really cute.
Speaker 1:Specialty cocktails and then it becomes like a day party right After the line dances, because it's only a few hours. But, yes, it's free. So this is our first event, okay, I wonder why. So make sure you RSVP. You can do that through Posh Posh.
Speaker 2:Eventbrite. The link is in the bio of our podcast.
Speaker 1:Yes, link at bottom Instagram yes, Instagram. And.
Speaker 2:I just want to say shout out to all the Muslims out there Happy Ramadan.
Speaker 1:Happy Ramadan Also.
Speaker 2:Last thing, as we flesh out this team, if you are interested in joining, please reach out to us at nothing but the GD on Instagram or you can, any skill, anything that you feel like you can contribute, even if you feel like you don't have a skill and you just want to be on the team because you rock with us. We will accept that too, and we will help you find your way with us. We appreciate all the help. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1:Thank you for listening. Y'all keep it lovely. How do you say what is Ramadan? It's rock bar, or is that the end of this? That's what it is.