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Cause ain't nothing but a G thing. Baby Too low down G, so we crazy Death row is the label that pays man Unfadable so please don't try to fade this, but I'm back to the lecture at hand.
Speaker 2:Are y'all trying to join the team?
Speaker 1:Nothing but a G team.
Speaker 2:Yemi and I are looking to expand the Nothing but A G Thing team.
Speaker 3:We're looking for people to do social media. You could be a gang member.
Speaker 2:A social media. You could be a part of the team that helps us plan host throw events.
Speaker 3:To the G spot.
Speaker 2:Run social media. Contact anybody when we talk about our business ventures. Join the team, have fun, be cool. Damn, we're actually starting to sound like a gang, huh.
Speaker 3:Hang out with us. It sounds like you're trying to push drugs.
Speaker 2:I'm not trying to do that. I'm just trying to make sure y'all join the team. Y'all keep it lovely. It's nothing but a G thing, team but a G thing Team.
Speaker 2:Back to the lecture or the legend at hand how y'all doing, man? Y'all having a good day? I hope so. So y'all?
Speaker 2:There was a time in my life where I said no to everything just because I wanted to say no. Say, for instance, somebody would ask to use my car when they didn't have a car and I'd be like, no, I'm going to use my car today. And then, as me and this person are chilling in the house all day, she would see me not use my car. Now I should have realized that karma is a mug, because, unconsciously, this person had harbored and she was waiting for the time and the moment in life where she could pay it back or pay it forward. However, you want to think about that, which has been the last two to three years of my life, where I'll be like, hey, I'll give you a little, just play-by-play. Oh, hey, yemi, do me a favor, yemi, do me a favor. Yemi, yemi, yemi, do me a favor. Yeah me, yeah me, yeah me, do me a favor.
Speaker 2:The silence is deafening. Huh, that's how I feel, and now that I've gotten to the point of ultimate frustration with the lack of response, I have coined a phrase that I feel like it's starting to grow and I feel like it's starting to get to the point of annoyance, where I want it to be, which is it don't pay you to be difficult. Oh boy, snap, snap, snap, snap, snap. Hey, I know the yummy face has been very straight, but she was like, yeah, deji did that. Deji did that, I know, I did, I know. Hey, I know I did, I know I did, I know I did. And what are we talking about today?
Speaker 1:Today, I know I did.
Speaker 2:And what are we talking about today? Today, we're talking about cattiness, catty, petty, whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 3:Ask yourself who is the pettiest person that you know. It's a nigga, right, it's usually a nigga. That's a lie, because the pettiest person I know is you. It's not how I'm not petty. You're like, intentionally petty and I'm just not an intentional petty person. I just happen to like, in certain situations, think of myself first, but you're intentionally petty, like you will know that the situation is the way that you would respond would be petty and you fully lean into it. Me, it's unintentional.
Speaker 2:How can you unintentionally be petty? How the hell did that sound?
Speaker 3:Sometimes it just happens like if, like I said, if you have the tendency to think of yourself first which you know uncandidly, I do and an outcome of a situation turns out to be petty, or I have a. I have this thing where, like you know, some of the things that I say come off as petty, but it's literally just meant to be like a statement as it is. It's never meant to be petty. Like you know where you have to preface stuff and say no shade. That's literally where I be coming from. But I don't think I mean I, like I said, I think that you know that it is uncharacteristic of you to be petty and you have fully leaned into it recently, as of late, being petty because you're trying to I don't know maybe match energy, or you just don't have the patience that you're used to having, or maybe for a bigger reason. But yeah, I think that you have the tendency to be petty for no reason.
Speaker 2:So what was the?
Speaker 3:question. Oh, oh, no question, but we're today. We're talking about pettiness or levels two levels to pettiness I.
Speaker 2:I like to think, because I was in a. I was in a. I heard something the other day that if you don't monitor your emotions, they tend to control you. And the example they use is anger, like when it's a level one anger, but because you don't know how to react, you always act at a level three and I feel like pettiness is like that a lot of the times, right, like if you feel like you've been, you do this a lot. That's why I said you talk about me being petty. You literally will not actively do things because you feel like you've been slighted before. You know the situation.
Speaker 3:I'm not gonna speak no, give me like something that teases it so I can think about it, because I don't know everyday people who, who was I being petty towards?
Speaker 3:I wasn't being petty towards that person. I didn't think I don't. I don't know why people be thinking like okay, so if I have an opinion about something, it can literally just be an opinion, but like I don't be caring about stuff, like I don't care about anything for real to where I would let it affect me in a way. But I feel like it's okay to have an opinion about something, state your opinion and just let it be that. Like I feel like it's yeah, but I didn't. I haven't acted in a petty way towards that person or in a situation like I don't but you'll actively avoid functions, because that's not petty, though, like that's literally preference, is that preference?
Speaker 2:so if everybody's going versus petty, thatference versus petty.
Speaker 3:That's a conversation. Is it preference though it is? It is. I mean, I feel like for me personally, like because I'm like some way in the industry that I work in but also still have to be social in it, I feel like it's preference. You can't go to everything, so I'm gonna make it a priority of mine to only go to the things that one I feel like would be good for me to go to, but also things that I care to be at, because I did go to an event that that person was at and just because, like socially, my friends were there, um, but that didn't have any bearing on me. Not going is what I'm saying. Like I'm sorry to speak in in circles, but you know, we we're trying to keep um, trying to keep good, good relationships with people trying to keep hope alive, trying to keep good relationships with people.
Speaker 2:So hope alive or a steady copacetic.
Speaker 3:But yeah, like I don't think it's petty for me not to want to go somewhere, because I have a preference on the type of things that I want when I go out socially okay but like I think it would be petty if I was intentionally stopping that person's bag or like throwing dirt on the person's name that is associated with.
Speaker 3:You know certain things, but I mean the, the people I have to sneeze, the people that I fuck with the promoters, that I fuck with the people that I actually want to do things with have sense. Not as I won't, because I won't say that the people that do not align with the way I think don't have sense. I just feel like it's business. Some things are business and some things are personal. And, um, the stuff that's business, I keep business, and the stuff that's personal, I keep personal. I hear all that. It's like a roundabout way to talk about what we're talking about.
Speaker 2:But but I feel like at the same token it's it's still categorized as petty yeah, it could be.
Speaker 3:I feel like there's a. If there was another word that is synonymous with petty, that's like unintentional, I could understand it being like that, but for me really, it's just like I think it's okay to know what a situation is for you and to move different based off of that. But I agree, like for some people, yeah, if I explain that to them fully, that could be petty, but I don't know. I feel like we can move on because we can talk.
Speaker 3:I know, but it was just an example, like I said like that's not me being um intentionally petty, but I do think, like if I think about myself, but it is intention, though, right no, I mean, I just feel like for me, at the end of the day, like me, not going to somebody's event is not going to have a bearing on whether it's a good event or not so we can move on.
Speaker 2:But you can't say you intentionally do something but it's unintentional right. That doesn't make any sense, because in order for you to do something you have to have intention right right, especially you can do things without.
Speaker 3:I don't think you can.
Speaker 2:That's why I said, like when you say you can be unintentionally petty, petty that's like very hard to do, like that's.
Speaker 3:That's basically saying you believe that you're better than everybody no, what I'm saying is that some things come across that way even though that was not what would come off as petty some, some of the things that I say, like I can be very um direct.
Speaker 2:That's your own affect and that's and i'm- not talking about anybody else.
Speaker 3:I'm talking about myself. I can be very direct and some of the things that I say come across as petty, but it's just a matter of fact but.
Speaker 2:But I also am. Very.
Speaker 3:Direct yeah, but I don't think that it depends on the situation. If it's a particular situation and I say something and it comes across as petty, then then then that's what it is, but that that was not my intention. My intention was just to probably state my opinion, to give an asked and answered. It could be a myriad of things, but I just think that for me personally, I'm not one of those people that leads with bad intention in anything that I do. It may just come across that way, but in my head I never do anything with ill intention and I put that on everything that I love.
Speaker 2:Do you think that pettiness is even a useful form of emotion?
Speaker 3:no, I do think it just comes from the fact that I am a very passive aggressive, but I feel like, no, yeah, I think that you know, it would fare better in the world if people were just direct with their approach to everything and everybody. But I also think of conflict and confrontation, and those are two things that I don't like. So I would just prefer to be passive, aggressive, say things in a gentle, playful manner, or to just do it in my own Suki style, which is kind of like Just like keeping it funny but also being dead ass, serious, sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, sure, okay, and that's just tact too.
Speaker 3:I think my tact in the way that I say things because I be serious but like you never really know if I'm like joking or serious but you really think that men are the most petty yeah y'all are petty as hell, like you be gossiping I don't gossip.
Speaker 2:Actually, when's the last time I gossip?
Speaker 3:not with me, but I'm sure when you get with your people you be gossiping like men be gossiping. You gossip, everybody gossips, but men be gossiping like y'all be in the business, y'all be in. You know the phrase men's business and women's business came because somebody along the lines got things crossed and I feel like nine times out of ten is probably a nigga. Most of the conflict that happens on social media or most of the discourse comes from a nigga being in women's business.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't do that at all.
Speaker 3:No, but we're not talking about you specifically. We're talking about the world. That's true, that's what we do on the podcast. We talk about y'all.
Speaker 2:Okay. So then what's the most recent petty situation you've seen? Oh, the Russell Wilson versus Future.
Speaker 3:That shit is petty, but I mean, I feel like that shit is hella petty. It's petty on Future.
Speaker 2:No, it's petty on Russell's part.
Speaker 3:What is he doing Besides raising another nigga's kids?
Speaker 2:See, that's what y'all, that's what women do oh see there you go, got you. I said women.
Speaker 3:Bring out that misogyny, because I knew it was in you. It was not. I knew that misogyny was in you. Sure, bring that up about you.
Speaker 2:Sure, let's say it as a man we all understand that when a single baby mom is single, she has every right to date whoever she wants to date.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:Right, but there is no. We understand the good graces, we understand the play date. Hey, I want to be with this woman so bad that I will make sure that I win her child over. But, shumbo, there's a line when you start raising this kid like he's your own and I have. No, this is not me trying to justify anything of anything of what future has done. I'm gonna just say it like this you have no right to dictate what that person like you a stepdad, you are a stepdad. Your role is that. So when decisions are made in the house for that child, if the mom is not making it she needed to call the pops. I don't care if the pops is future. It's not a decision you make together and you exclude the father and the fact that future actually spoke up about it One. I guess it's because he's messy and we all know this.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But the second part is that like hey, at the end of the day, that's my kid, like that's my seed, that's one of my loin, you feel me?
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And that's something that Russell won't have ever.
Speaker 3:I don't care With that particular child, but he has other kids with her. I don't know. I just think that, like, if a nigga not doing what he's supposed to do as a father, then you can't get mad at another nigga doing his fatherly duties. I don't see no problem with that. I feel like and also this is a separate topic that we can talk about for another day Don't come over here with no kids asking me to be stepmom, because fuck them kids. No shade to your kids, see and I was petty and I wasn't intending on being petty, but for real, that's not petty.
Speaker 3:That's preference. That's what I was just talking about earlier. You told me that having a preference was petty.
Speaker 2:No, but you're taking a situation where you're putting your own preference as being it might be considered petty, but that's not petty. It's own preference is being it might be considered petty, but that's not petty. That's it's petty because of the world's view, but in all actuality it's not petty if I say, hey, I don't want to be with somebody who got a kid. Unfortunately, I don't want to be with nobody who has a kid. Yeah, don't matter how great you are of a person, yeah, I need all the attention no, it's well, that might be your reasoning.
Speaker 3:Mine is just because I don't want to be in a situation where, like I can't not that I believe in discipline, but I don't want no kid to tell me that I can't tell them what to do because I'm you're not my dad. Well, you, motherfucking right, you can go find that nigga Like and tell him to take you to basketball practice if you want to, or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 3:You're not my mom, you damn right, and because of that I'm not going to be cooking you dinner today. You can figure out how you're going to eat Now. They're calling CPS on me and I told this nigga that I didn't want to raise this baby.
Speaker 2:So that is actually petty.
Speaker 3:So let it be.
Speaker 2:That's petty.
Speaker 3:Let it be.
Speaker 2:But mine's petty too. I'm not saying that I need that much attention, I really don't. But if it comes push, cut and the shove and you be like, damn, my kid's sick, I got to take care of it, I'm going to be like, okay, well.
Speaker 3:Have a good one, have a good one. I just don't think that it matches.
Speaker 2:Like.
Speaker 2:I feel like you know, in this people just need to date folks who match their lifestyle, like you have to date folks who? But you don't meet people like that. Who doesn't? You don't meet people like that. Like what do you mean? You meet people? You meet people by living for the people who actually do like I. I know I can meet somebody who is in the same life frame I am because I actively go out but for people most generally, most people are doing it on dating apps so they don't know if you have kids. They only know you through your, your avi.
Speaker 2:I feel like oh, your profile picture yeah um, I think you can but because, like, how are you supposed to tell somebody got kids?
Speaker 3:if you look at it, on your dating profile, have a picture with the child that's not information.
Speaker 2:People tell nor should you put that out in front street, because there's pedophiles there's true there's creeps true, yeah child.
Speaker 2:I just feel like they talking about you know, we're getting to the age to where, like folks, the number of people who are dating have children as opposed to don't yeah, it's really normal and the pickings are going to be slim well, and they, they have a, they have a rule of thumb the closer you get to 30, the more the dating pool of people who are single without children is doing it gets smaller and then when the other side they say if you for a woman, specifically if you're single over the age of 30 and don't have no kids, they say what's wrong with you as a guy? It's great.
Speaker 3:Yeah, they're like, oh wow you've made it this far, you're lucky, you're lucky.
Speaker 2:Yes, that's what they say.
Speaker 3:So I mean it's or you're fortunate enough to have some money so you can kill them. Sure, because if I ended up pregnant today, send the 500 you said it already. You said oh yeah, I say it all the time, this is not news.
Speaker 2:We are a very progressive podcast.
Speaker 3:Yes, trigger. Warning, we kill kids.
Speaker 2:No, we do not. Don't say that shit like that. What the fuck we?
Speaker 1:don't do it, the hell what we don't kill children.
Speaker 3:What the fuck.
Speaker 2:Can you recall?
Speaker 1:something.
Speaker 2:Pet, something petty that you have done recently. Recently, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I've been going back and forth with my brother on something, and I keep saying that I was like you have a family. I'm single, yeah, and he's like and he said nigga ain't nobody nigga. I know I'm married, thank you. I know I got kids.
Speaker 3:Amen, god bless the home.
Speaker 2:And it got to the point he said I'm thinking about other folks. I said I don't give a fuck about them niggas, fuck them niggas, like what? But that's again. But he's like hey, blah, blah, blah, I know what? Again, I'm talking a very roundabout way because I believe in principalities. You know, I'm a Christian, also I'm Yoruba. We believe in principalities.
Speaker 3:Tradition.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, exactly so. I'm not going to speak.
Speaker 3:Rules of order.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to speak words and have people try to sow seeds in my sow discords in my field. Do you feel me?
Speaker 3:What the hell are you talking about?
Speaker 2:You ain't watched Greenleaf.
Speaker 3:No, I did, but it's hard to get into.
Speaker 2:What For people who like acting?
Speaker 3:It's drama. It's just dramatic in a way that's like too much for me. Like I like shows, I do, like you, like soap operas. So that's why you like Greenleaf, cause you used to watch soap operas.
Speaker 2:You like reality TV shows?
Speaker 3:I do, but I, oh, it's a lot of drama, but it's that's more like I don't know, I don't know what it is about, greenleaf, that I didn't like. I just felt like Black people who are wealthy, I don't know, probably the church, I don't know. I don't know, I can't tell you what it is, but I watched like the first couple of episodes, like the first couple of seasons, for sure yeah, it definitely gets redundant, but you know it's a good show.
Speaker 2:But what I'll say is this um, what the hell? What was he talking?
Speaker 3:about the pettiest thing you've done. Oh yeah, the pettiest thing.
Speaker 2:That was the pettiest thing I did with my brother and my brother actually, he got, he got hot, and then I was like oh, why are you getting hot? Because he's like no, motherfucker, I don't keep. I was like I knew what he said motherfucker. What did he say? He was like nah, motherfucker I'm thinking about the other motherfuckers oh true okay, so, okay.
Speaker 3:So let's talk about that, like, when you are in a situation where things get petty, how do you resolve the, the, the situation?
Speaker 2:Oh well, me. I usually take a step back and then I'm like, yeah, my bad G.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I, I'm very quick.
Speaker 2:The thing about me is a lot of people don't notice I talk a lot of shit but I am so quick to apologize. I, I, if I know.
Speaker 3:I've done this to me.
Speaker 2:I've definitely apologized to you.
Speaker 3:Then one time you've apologized to me. I just gaslit you, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:I apologize, I don't I mean. I don't apologize often cause I don't often.
Speaker 3:You're often not wrong or you often just don't apologize.
Speaker 2:No, I don't Cause you. You would assume that I do a lot wrong, but I don't do that much. Actually, I'm a pretty decent human being to Yemi, but, yeah, usually that's what I do. But because me and Tunde have such a close relationship and we talk literally every day, we literally were like we didn't have to apologize. It was like nah, bro, you was right, you was right.
Speaker 3:But I was right too.
Speaker 2:No, it was like you, right. I was like da-da-da, we'll do this. And then he was like nah, he's like nah, I feel you. I see what you was talking about, but that's how me and Tune communicate. It's a very like. We're both very passionate people in different ways, so it's hard, you know, when you have two very passionate people it's always like butting heads. But then when things are smooth sailing, it's smooth sailing. The last party thing I did to Yemi was at our most recent event, and it was whenever you asked for help. I found a convenient excuse to say no, you didn't know at the time, but I felt very jaded because she decided not to talk to me all week and I was like you're not going to talk to me when you want me to do labor, but you can't even say hi or hello to me. That's it, simple, simple, tell me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 2:The people, the people tell me if I'm wrong people.
Speaker 3:No, no, no. Let the people, let the people sound off, but I'm going me like I don't know what it is. But people just like I'm not even trying to be like to my own horn, but like the people who literally love me and they be acting like they don't and I just, I just be living my life like what do you talk about?
Speaker 2:I wasn't even being passive. All I wanted is a hi, hello, that's it. It's not hard. You see, we live in the same house, yes, and I think it's the weirdest thing. When somebody can walk right past, you know that you're there and don't say nothing, and he took it so personal and didn't say anything.
Speaker 3:But then, yeah, yeah, I would just say this, like and you, the people will probably say that I was being petty, but like we in here setting up for the event and you, a man, why, why is you mixing drinks when you see people moving?
Speaker 2:furniture. First of all, don't that? I actually did cut my finger. You saw the band-aid.
Speaker 3:I did Okay, but then you said it. And once you said it I left it alone. But before that I just outside looking in because I had went to the car.
Speaker 2:I actually was going to do that right away, but then I was like you know fuck it.
Speaker 3:Let the women do that, because that's women, women's business. One thing, no. Or did you let? Did you let? No no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, go ahead. No, no, no. Or did you let the way you felt about not getting a hello deter you from doing men's business? That's very petty. And that's, that's that's that's crazy that you allowed that to happen.
Speaker 2:Let's start One.
Speaker 3:Because you cut your finger.
Speaker 2:One. Let's start. Yemi, you are a very sexist person in the wrong way. I'm not. That was just very sexist In one way Towards woman. Now I will say this I'm not. I will say this.
Speaker 3:I respect all the sexists.
Speaker 2:Yemi knows. One of the things Yemi knows is if you, if you fail to acknowledge me as a human, that just irks me, for whatever reason I did not not acknowledge you, but you were like you have not been the most.
Speaker 3:let me talk to this. Let me talk to you, know, let me have a full conversation with. Deji Hi, hello For what we live together. Like, Deji wants to be greeted like he's a Nigerian uncle and I'm his.
Speaker 2:Hi hello, I'm his mate, what?
Speaker 3:That's something we grew up on. I give you a head nod, but you were upset because I was not giving you conversation and I just didn't have that for you last week. What? No, I knew you were sick.
Speaker 2:Most of the time I was in the bed. So what are you talking about? Thank you for admitting that, because when you talk, I was most of the time I was in the bed.
Speaker 3:So what are you talking about? Thank you. Thank you for admitting that, because when you talk about hi hello, I can't fucking, I can't even breathe, for real, Because.
Speaker 2:My head is hurting. I don't like that. I can't breathe through my nose.
Speaker 3:You could say hi.
Speaker 2:I spent most of the week.
Speaker 3:Why would I do that? How are you doing?
Speaker 2:How's your week going? Because I do that.
Speaker 3:I do that, when do you text me asking me how am I doing?
Speaker 2:Because I just go in your room I'll be like, hey, how are you doing? Yes, yeah.
Speaker 3:When you feeling all right, but I'm sick. What the fuck?
Speaker 2:I don't give a fuck what anybody's saying that's what you're supposed to do when you like day people are going to be like well it seems like Deji loves Yemi a little bit more than Yemi loves Deji. And now you know what?
Speaker 3:All I'm trying to say is this Don't let that be the hell you die on. Don't let that be the hell that you die on.
Speaker 2:It's not but what I was trying to say. All I wanted was a hi hello, Because then, when the event comes, you're over here trying to dictate me. You can't dictate.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but we're doing business. You shouldn't have let that affect the business.
Speaker 2:I also didn't want to cut my finger three hours before the event. Okay.
Speaker 3:No problem. Did you cut it really bad? Because you don't have a bad cut.
Speaker 2:It was one of those joints where you pull the nail and there's a hangnail and it starts bleeding.
Speaker 3:Oh, so that incapacitated you. I feel like you was just being petty and you took it out on everybody else. I I feel like you was just being petty and you took it out on everybody else.
Speaker 2:I learned not to get in front when women are doing. You see, I didn't do a lot of talking. I let y'all run it when we have the post-mortem tomorrow and we talk about it when are you going to be? Here.
Speaker 3:Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:Oh, I might have to go to Chicago but I'll be on the call. But yeah, when we do a little post-mortem I probably get bit into, which rightfully so. There's a few things I need to get bit into, but also I'm going to do some biting because I did not know the full scope no problem that's it, you don't have to do no biting.
Speaker 3:You could just be like I was unaware of certain things but you know that's fine.
Speaker 2:But you're right, you know I'd be petty, but my petty foot is my pettiness is taxal, like I am I don't think that was the right place for you to do that, but but it's not the point.
Speaker 3:What I'm trying to say is that my pettiness is usually 100 and I had no idea which makes it a little, which makes speak to you, because I was sick all week and if y'all y'all can still hear a little bit of congestion in me now to this day, it's because disregarding somebody makes them feel like they're not. I've told you, oh you. You've been feeling inhumane, but that's not because of me inhumane.
Speaker 2:I said I feel very human, but I'm just saying you've been feeling less like myself. Yes, yeah you know, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not clicking on 110 like yeah, so when you do things you have to just think you.
Speaker 3:You be thinking it's millen ill intent and I was literally sick all week, so I'm not thinking about you.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry you don't have to be thinking about me. That's not what I'm saying. Listen, I see you hello, I guess, but also like we live together someone walked through the door, take everything off, come into the kitchen, look at me and then go upstairs like what, what?
Speaker 3:that's crazy, because I always do that, did you? We live together, I see you every day?
Speaker 2:what the fuck? You will say something, something that will suffice as a greeting. I don't give a fuck. If it's a fuck, I couldn't even greeting. I don't give a fuck. If it's a fuck, I couldn't even talk. I'll give a fuck.
Speaker 3:If it's a fuck, you or hey, nigga or whatever, you know whatever oh my goodness, not only was I sick, but I was also on my period, so I was not worried about what they had going on. Life is life happens without you.
Speaker 3:Day g like life always has okay, and we happy that we have you in it to live, but let's move on, because that's honestly, even the even talking about this is very petty Like this is so below, below us. I'm very laid back, I'm even keel, I'm joking, I'm kind of go with the flow.
Speaker 2:Wherever you need me I help. But the one little passive, the one little toxic thing I have is my pettiness and I know I try to break it in so many ways. I'm still trying to break it to this day. But I'm a very petty ass person. Like I'm not talking like respectfully, like I'm a disrespectful in-your-face type of petty person. But if I don't choose to be petty with you, that usually means I don't give two shits about you. And I've come to realize when I don't want to give my energy into pettiness towards somebody that means that, like my life will be good without you.
Speaker 3:I think the pettiest thing you could do to somebody is just Be indifferent. Just like I don't have good without you.
Speaker 3:I think the pettiest thing you could do to somebody is just be indifferent, just like I don't have nothing for you. Yeah, I don't have nothing for you, cause, like, even if you are on the attack, like in a mad, like in a negative way, like you talking shit about them, you throwing dirt on their name, like you're still giving it energy, but I think the pettiest thing you can do is just leave it alone, pay no mind. What happened between you and who, who are you talking about? I don't even know that person exists. What they're doing, like, what earth they working on? If it's this one, if it's the next one, like I don't think I would ever.
Speaker 2:I would never talk dirt on nobody's name.
Speaker 3:Do you think like that's real petty though, like in life, Like if someone you're dating talking bad about them, that's petty. But also like if you see them in public not acknowledging them. That would probably be the worst thing you could do to me and I'd probably snatch you from like a hood. Actually, I probably wouldn't do anything, to be quite honest, I probably wouldn't do anything. To be quite honest, I probably wouldn't do anything. I'd probably be really sad about it. That's always tough, though, because it's like how did it? And and yeah, well, I mean like if you're not talking to the person because you're just indifferent to the situation.
Speaker 2:Like, yeah, like I have people I don't talk to, though, because I feel like, if I talk to them, something might come up like and I don't mean like come up romantically, like something might come up in conversation.
Speaker 3:I just meant like in general, like you could just have a friend that you fought out. You felt, that's what I'm saying, that's what I that's what I meant.
Speaker 2:Like it could be like that damn son. So you just let me, you just let me go out the way and never reached out and I try to hit me nothing yeah, I have a bad.
Speaker 3:I have a bad thing about like I'll be wondering what my friends are doing, that I'm not really close to anymore, but also like I'm not in the position to invest too much into relationships. But I would. I really do like I really wish I could be one of those people that just has like a really strong relationship with like a particular group of girls. Um, this is crazy because I'm in a sorority, but I feel like, yeah, like I just want to.
Speaker 3:That's something that I need to unpetty unpetty is that pettiness or is that just like you, just be tired I'm uh, I would say so, but I just feel like for me I just need like my own. You know, I think it's very hard as we become adults to like form relationships, platonic that are substantial.
Speaker 3:So I just feel like for me, if it's not my own, if it's not personable or personal, if it's not exclusive, I kind of don't really want it and I feel like everybody already has that established. But you know, I don't know, that may be petty of me and my thinking, but that's kind of how I feel about that.
Speaker 2:Um yeah, you know I'm always twisted, I'm torn, you feel me.
Speaker 3:I still think that the pettiest person you know is a nigga.
Speaker 2:So I doubt that. So you said who's the pettiest person you know nigga.
Speaker 3:So I doubt that. So you said who's the pettiest person you know? A nigga, no, who? No, not like directly, but I feel like when I think of people who I'm asking you though no, I mean, I don't have a specific person because I I don't know but I do know that the men that I, that I have around me, that I associate with, they be saying some petty ass shit.
Speaker 2:They'd be petty the pettiest person I know is in this house yes, who is it?
Speaker 3:it's not you okay, I was about to say because you could. You could call it out.
Speaker 2:You could say my name no, you know who it is. She's the pettiest person. You know who she is. Your mom yeah. Is she the pettiest, yes.
Speaker 3:She just has a very innate way of like undercutting and like just like doing things. That that's what I'm saying. I'm saying like her pettiness is not intentional and-.
Speaker 2:But it is. But it is Because she didn't get what she wanted.
Speaker 3:But it is yeah. When she don't get what she wanted, but it is yeah. When she don't get what she wants, she become the worst, the prettiest. I just never understood that. Like how could somebody like my mother is a grown like, an adult woman and if she does not get what she wants out of her children, she will treat us like the stepchildren and we're from her loins?
Speaker 3:She pushed me out early because I was supposed to be born at the end of july you pretty much was I just, I just I feel like I should have been a leo to be quite honest, things, things would make so much more sense. But, honestly, if I was a leo and I was a july leo I would feel a type of way because I feel like leos in august make more actually. I don't know, I like being a july leo. I would feel a type of way because I feel like leo's in august make more actually. I don't know, I like being a july baby in general, but we're getting off topic, I think I don't know. But yeah, our mom is pretty petty, so that's where we get it from. Our dad is petty as well.
Speaker 3:Extremely, you know what it is. I think it's pisces, because both of our parents are pisces petty, petty Pisces. If we didn't name these episodes with the letter G, that would be the name of this episode Petty Pisces. Cease to cease, because y'all bitches be petty as fuck. I'm thinking about it. Who's the messiest person? You know the pettiest person. You know it's a Pisces.
Speaker 2:So now you just went from it's a pisces.
Speaker 3:So now you just went from it was a nigga to now it's a nigga who's a pisces and there's no shade to the nigga that's a pisces, that I know, but he's pretty petty. But like, not in like a mean way, just like in a, you know everybody has it in them everybody has it in them.
Speaker 3:I think everybody has the ability to be petty and your maturity is how you decide to take it, and I feel like, for me, everyone is looking for me to be like this petty, yummy, yummy, mean person and I really am not like. I really, at the end of the day, for me, I feel like my reaction to things is to just not care sure and it's not about being intentionally petty. I just don't give a fuck about a lot of stuff sure friend you don't believe.
Speaker 3:So I said sure, friend, I just feel like I'm not. I don't know, I don't think I'm intentionally petty. I feel like I got into a situation where, like the people in the room thought I was being petty because, like I completely forgot about a situation. It was like a card game, you know, like those drinking games and a card came up and it was like a card game, you know, like those drinking games, and a card came up and it was like something that was like messy right and I didn't peep until it clicked for me that the card had like some sort of significance for some people in the room.
Speaker 3:And when I finally got it I was like oh, no, no, no. I was like oh. And then everybody else was like damn, suki, you being petty.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 3:I'm like, I'm really not. I really don't give a fuck about what y'all be telling me. I don't know shady shit, but like you, just don't be remembering. I just like. I feel like if it's not my business, it's not my business?
Speaker 2:It's not my business.
Speaker 3:I do live by that rule too. The rule because people will call you petty and it's really just. I'm not one of those people that are that invested into shit that don't got nothing to do with me. If I tell you all the stuff that I have going on in my life right now, you would be like girl. How do you keep it all together in your brain?
Speaker 2:I don't, I don't, I just when it comes in.
Speaker 3:That's when it comes in. It comes out like and if it, if it comes in and it don't got shit to do with what I got going on in my life, I'll push it to the side. So that way, when it happened, when it happened and it clicked, I was like oh, and they thought I was being petty and I was like no, I literally forgot and I just remembered. But now y'all got me out here as public enemy and it didn't even give that, because but I understand where that comes from, because I just give that off I tell you it's the affect, but that's something you can change I think so, but I honestly like we talked about it before you can't change people's perception of you because but fuck them yeah it's not really for them to.
Speaker 2:Honestly, everything you do is for yourself. If you change and you like who you are, then are you good? Yeah, that's what? The same thing. I used to be a very petty person. So the fact that I'm talking about this openly and letting people know like I used to do extreme, like my pettiness knew no bounds, like I would be in here plotting plot, it was like one of my most DV. It was like the one time where people could not like I'm a very transparent person, like you usually know what I'm doing a thousand, a thousand miles away, but when I would want to be petty, I'm telling you right now I was unmatched, I was unmatched, I was unmatched and that's it. But we could move on because, you know, I feel like we beat this to a head. So let's do some. I have a segment, but I'll wait for us to do our regular stuff.
Speaker 2:Oh, you over here doing stuff different. Now no, we said, we were gonna do this. Really, remember back you were like oh yeah, let's talk about. Uh, this is r&b thug, where we discuss musical lyrics let's do that then okay. Well, you have to pull up the musical lyric okay, what's the song? Saturn remember, um sure, but we don't I have other songs as well.
Speaker 3:I don't know if that necessarily fits with the theme of today's episode. Not that it has to. We can pull up Saturn and dissect it.
Speaker 2:We could go over Kill Bill, but we've already done.
Speaker 1:Cezanne, I might kill my ex. Not the best idea.
Speaker 2:Oh, I actually have a really good song that we could do.
Speaker 1:How did I get here? I might kill my ex. I still don't know.
Speaker 3:Actually I feel like we should do Saturn for a different episode. Okay, that's fine. Yeah, let's do the ghetto intellectual because, deji, you actually asked me this question and I thought this would be a good answer, good question for you to answer on ghetto intellectual.
Speaker 3:You asked the question, ask this so we're not doing r&b though no that's fine friends, we'll save that for a different episode, because I actually need to look at the lyrics and interpret them for myself. But I did what? The lyrics that I did here from saturn was fire. But we're gonna save that for a different episode, um, because that could go with something else 100 but%. But the gut and intellectual question is this and I feel like it comes in line with pettiness you said after someone has left your life, when is an appropriate time to re-invite them back into your life, if that's even an option?
Speaker 2:Oh, I did ask you that question.
Speaker 3:You did ask me that question and I said save that for later. Also don't Me personally, okay. So look, asked me that question and I said save that for later. Also don't me personally okay so I think it's contingent, but like, yes, you can go ahead uh, I mean obviously, if it's contingent, but if it's a ghetto, answer shit I guess this is always your ghetto.
Speaker 2:Intellectual answer my ghetto intellectual answer is sugar and spice and everything. Nice type of answer it depends how I'm feeling on the night. You know what I'm saying honestly, honestly.
Speaker 2:That's real, that's the real shit like I'm saying that like like if I'm feeling like man, I can't believe this person did this shit to me, like because you know I'm saying that and like because you know every night is different, but in totality, if I step back and be like, oh no, this person was really good to me, it would be it'd have to be. How did how do I think this person was really good to me? It would be it'd have to be. How did how do I think this person perceives me? If I feel like the person perceives me pretty favorably, which yeah like for most of the time.
Speaker 2:There's never been somebody who I was messing with. Don't get me wrong. I got. I have my strikeouts where I would never reach out to that woman again. You know what I'm saying. Oh, so this is somebody that you dated. No, oh, I was saying this in general because I was thinking about how a lot of my friends are getting married and you were, and you've been complaining about the dates and I'm like shit, what do you want me to?
Speaker 3:do, just because I don't like when people plan they uh, they like birthdays, weddings, around holidays, right, like I only get this holiday off for work and or for whatever and you want me to spend it with you celebrating you. It's no shade, but I just feel like I get it financially but also like I want to do hood rest, shit or you know, and I don't want to have to be limited to the things that I can do but I started because I want to celebrate you or be a part of your union or whatever the fuck.
Speaker 2:So that's why I started thinking about it, because I was like damn, like you had a whole this time to kind of get back into contact with me, but because you want my gift. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Oh, you want me to be there for your special day.
Speaker 2:Like what the fuck.
Speaker 1:So what you?
Speaker 2:gonna do. We gonna catch up and talk like we friends. You know what I we gonna catch up and talk like we friends. You know I'm saying there's a lot of things that we we've. I you know like I myself have lived life, so I can't only imagine what you have right, yeah, especially when I've tried to reach out.
Speaker 3:So then it's like interesting. I feel like it's contingent on how things ended. Like if they ended on good terms, then yeah for sure. If they ended on bad terms, definitely not. But if it's like this, like ambient in between hot, cold type of thing, I don't know, if you feel like that, you should probably just wait it out. Also, just think about like what, for what? You know what I mean. Like if someone is not in your life anymore, what's what's to having them re-enter your life or be a re-part of your life, like in a different capacity, because of course it's not going to be in the same capacity. Like I'll be thinking about that, like, especially when I get drunk, because I'll be like damn, I got shit to say. But I'm also like for what? Because the worst thing you could do is the worst thing that could happen for me is I like, uh, like get off of my, my ego or whatever, and I reach out, and it's not receptive the way that I would want it to be.
Speaker 2:That's the worst thing that can happen.
Speaker 3:That's why I do that shit sober, because then I'm like at least at least you did it with a clear mind, yes, but you know, the alcohol give you courage not me, well, because you courage to say the shit, you, you, the spicy shit yes but at least when you do it with a clear mind, you could say this, that you did it like with, with the, with the sound decision, like you did it with, like, yeah, um, I feel that twofold.
Speaker 3:Like I feel like the same way when you drunk for show, when you sober, for sure. But I just feel like I want to make sure that when I do get lit, my mind is is thinking the same way that my sober mind would think, but just without the verbato, like without that extra push, because I I'm okay with, you know, talking my shit, sober, drunk, what all the things. But, um, yeah, so that was ghetto, intellectual. What do y'all think? Do y'all think you should be, um, reaching out to anybody that has left your life? And do you think it's contingent? And what is it contingent on?
Speaker 2:I think it, and this crazy thing is, I think it's easier when it's been a lover as opposed to a friend. Oh, I think, because for me, I always have a challenge with friends because I'm like man, we, we, we parted. Because we parted. Whatever happened happened. It is what it is for sure.
Speaker 3:I mean, I give everyone the this space to come back into my life like for whatever, whatever it was romantic and not romantic, like, but you just have to.
Speaker 2:I just need at this point in my life, like for what you know, but for me, it's because I know how much I invest and if I'm gonna do that with a friendship bruh, we locked in. So whatever you tell me you're going through, we going through it. We finna go through this transfer, we finna get it together. We finna get it done. You feel me, but as a same token, I don't want to be in that same position where I try to lean on you and you not there.
Speaker 3:I would never lean on anybody that left my life Like that's not Right. Well, well, well, well, okay. No, I say that and now that I think about it, that might be because then that your friend, somebody that you dated, they know you better than anybody else and it's like I feel like for me, I just have this thing where I'm like, damn, this would have been such a good thing to talk about with this person because they understand, I don't even think about it.
Speaker 2:That's what I'll be thinking like.
Speaker 3:I'll be thinking about my friends and I'll be thinking about like situations that I feel like damn they would have. Like this is just. I just need to tell them this and I feel like if you know it'd be weird I do that with music.
Speaker 2:I do that with music, music tweets like anything, like, like anything I'd be like damn motherfucker would love this song. Yes, sure you would have loved that song, you know.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes, yes, yes or and yeah, that's more so what it is and in those situations like you kind of just got to eat that, but that's, that's like that's a good topic to talk about with like a mass of people of course that'd be, uh, that's a um, that's a, that's a think, that's a think joint yeah, well, I was also thinking like a sunday session, like songs that you, that you want, that you could send to somebody yeah, um, okay, so let's move on to things I send ag on twitter.
Speaker 3:I sent this tweet to you march 14th, 2024, the year that we're in right now. Um, it's a video of the of the fight that broke out on the on the train in new york.
Speaker 1:So funny, oh my goodness, I would laugh a little bit harder, but I'm going through life.
Speaker 3:Uh, but is she talking about whereish? The door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the door, the. Let me out.
Speaker 1:Let me out, let me out, let me out, let me out, let me out.
Speaker 2:Let me out.
Speaker 3:Okay, y'all, that's not funny. Okay, gunshots is not funny. Trigger, warning, trigger, warning's not funny.
Speaker 1:Okay, gunshots is not funny.
Speaker 3:Trigger warning, trigger warning, yes, trigger warning gunshots but um it's not funny because you know, you know somebody ended up losing their life exactly. But it was funny because she was recorded the whole time talking about let me out, let me out. And then she turned the camera on herself Because are you really that scared? But also like, look how far the world has come.
Speaker 3:Where, like you're in danger and you pulling out your phone to tell people to let you out Like bitch, even if you post, even if you are alive. You think I'm finna. Come to where a nigga with a gun is on a train in New York to come and help save your, your life.
Speaker 2:I was just there.
Speaker 3:I'm cool, shorty oh my goodness, it was just so funny because she got an accent. You could tell she's been in the states for a little bit, but she's still african, yeah, so she talked about me out even before that. Excuse me, she was like. She was like, man, go stop them, go stop them. I'm right here, girl bro. I'm right here, bro, stop them. Oh, my goodness, that's just so funny. But yes, um, that was, that was. That was.
Speaker 3:That was great so she sent that to me because she wanted to laugh yeah, you know we'd be laughing about stuff that's not supposed to be funny for real, but of course we all do. We all have a wicked sense of humor yeah, also my humor is dry, but I it's that was dry no, no that that video wasn't dry, but what preceded?
Speaker 2:that was that buddy got stabbed, so the whole video oh yeah, we'll post the video the video is very wild.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes yeah, the girl's stabbing him the dude, he was fighting the one guy and then the girl stabbed him and she was like you stabbed a cop, he wasn't a police. Yeah, exactly, he wasn't a police. You know, people in new york are crazy. I don't know what. What they got in the water. I just I don't understand how y'all it's too many people I just don't understand how like y'all live like that like it's too many people.
Speaker 2:Y'all have very small quarters like it's a lot you. You're dealing with a lot.
Speaker 3:You feel me but the people that I know I mean like the people that I work with at my job they like cheerful and be in New York.
Speaker 2:Because they have money.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but even my boss. I know that man make money he's talking about. Yeah, you know we live in a little one bedroom apartment in New York and I'm like but you got, I know you got bands Because he want to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, probably because of location.
Speaker 2:People will live some places just because of location. It's the easy I'm right by the subway or yeah, he lives in Brooklyn. Brooklyn's a good place. Yeah, I love Brooklyn. Okay, honestly, it was cool and they just go to New York now, you.
Speaker 3:I feel like you've been to New York too many times.
Speaker 2:I do like New York.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you would move there.
Speaker 2:No, no Hell, no hands a lot man just getting used to the grime is it's enough it's like a two-day adjustment it's enough two days two, four days, and then I'm like, all right, cool oh, like cool you can I feel like I don't need to always put on hand sanitizer.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but other than that, it's fun it's just, we just don't never go to sleep, and we like we like sleep I like sleep chicago be asleep because they need all the black people to be up and out the out the way I just like it.
Speaker 2:It's a good time. What are we missing? I?
Speaker 1:don't know, I didn't really like new york.
Speaker 3:I feel like if you went again, I gotta go one time I feel like there's like bits and pieces from the trips that I've gone on that I appreciate, but in totality the times that I've gone to New York, I haven't had like an experience that made me feel like, oh my goodness, I need to go back. Like I've been there twice for work and the second time. The last time I went there is when the fires from Canada was coming so a bitch couldn't breathe. The sky was yellow and like I was actually like the last day I was planning to go out was when the sky was yellow and I was like, damn, I gotta be in a hotel room all day and that's fine. I went and got a chopped cheese and I went to the not to the bodega, but I went to one of these like dispensaries, cause they just sell weed anywhere buy me some weed and I just got high in the hotel room. I went to sleep.
Speaker 2:I woke up and caught a flight back home yeah, the bodega, I don't know, but the chopped cheese, but you, I'll go to back to new york for the chopped cheese. But you go to new york at the right time, because I ain't never been in the summer, and that's the thing I just need at this point. I just need to go to new york in the summer.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm straight yeah, I want to go to new york. In this, I feel like that's the experience I'm missing, because I haven't gone to new york to just be like a tourist for real. It's always been like for work, or we're doing rolling loud and we can't do anything but go to the concert, or even when we never do that, even when we went for, when we went for barnaby white.
Speaker 3:That was a good weekend, though that was that was a good weekend because, like, we only had the one day where we were tied to stuff and then we were able to do other things. But even like that last day when we went to soho, I was like I'm ready to go we went to soho like the area, not soho house I was about to say we went to Soho to do like shopping, but there was no places in the shop in Soho. Really yeah.
Speaker 2:But then people said they don't really be going shopping in Soho. That's what I've been hearing.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 2:But no, it was a good time. It was a little good time. I'm very happy, all right, but we had our first event, dirty Denim.
Speaker 3:Yummy, what you about the event? I think it was great. I feel like that could be its own episode, and we should probably make it one. How are we looking for time? Good, we're at 55, okay, yeah, we can wrap up this episode then. Um, thank you so much. We're gonna talk about dirty, dirty denim at a later date. Thank you so much for the folks that showed up. It was a good turnout for our first event and we're definitely going to scale up.
Speaker 2:And plan another.
Speaker 3:The only way to make sure that you get informed about the events that we're doing is to follow us on social medias. I am Suki G's on Instagram and Twitter. That is S-U-K-I-G, double E-Z, because I make everything that I try look twice as easy. On TikTok. I am DJ Suki G's, that's D-J-S-U-K-I-G-E-Z. Nothing but a G thing on social media. We are nothing. Spelled all the way out N-O-T-H-I-N-G. On Instagram and Twitter. We are active, we are active there. If you communicate with us, we will communicate. Twitter we are active, we are active there. If you communicate with us, we will communicate back. We are also on TikTok at nothing. Spelled all the way out N-O-T-H-I-N-G. Capital B, capital A, capital G, thing spelled all the way out. That's on TikTok as well, deji.
Speaker 2:You can follow me on IG and Twitter at the R-M&B underscore thug. I'm sorry, the R&B thug underscore daji. R&b is spelled R and B. Lastly, what I always like to say y'all keep it lovely.
Speaker 3:Free mellow bucks.
Speaker 2:Free more bucks. Free mellow bucks, mellow bucks, free mellow bucks. Condolences to the people of be more baltimore.
Speaker 3:That bridge falling is just that. Shit is one of the scariest things.
Speaker 2:That's why, my goodness, I don't even imagine I don't even get good when I'm on a bridge. That's actually one of my like final destiny yours.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'll be speeding across them, bitches, oh my god on bridges for nothing, oh my goodness, especially since, like chicago, has bridges too. Yeah, I don't like being on bridges for nothing, oh my goodness, especially since, like Chicago, has bridges too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't like that shit. I'd be trying to figure out how to get off the motherfuckers as soon as you get on the bridges, as soon. Oh, my goodness, I don't even trust them, but yeah prayers for all those people.
Speaker 3:Also, I'm rooting on LSU to make it to the final four and to win the championship. I don't give a about Iowa and Caitlin Clark and I can talk shit about that place because I went to school there for four years. They don't give a fuck about black people, just like George Bush. And that's where I end this right here Angel Reese, anissa Morrow from Chicago. If they make it to the, if they beat Iowa, or if it's Iowa and LSU again playing on that side, I'm getting an Iowa jersey with Anissa Morrow on it, because that's a superstar right there. She was at DePaul.
Speaker 2:Wait, is she on?
Speaker 3:Iowa. No, she's on LSU, she's from Chicago. She went to DePaul for two years and then transferred but when she was at DePaul she was averaging like 27, 28 points a game, like double digits rebounds, like averaging a double-double. She transferred to LSU and she's literally like one of their best. Well, they have a lot of good players on their team but she's one of the best players but she just gets overlooked because Angel Reese but she's dope as fuck and I need Samara for the the win. I'm team LSU all the way for the repeat. Got you Fuck. Kaylin Clark, no shade.
Speaker 2:You heard?
Speaker 3:her.
Speaker 2:She's cool, we're going to catch up.
Speaker 3:We're going to talk about that in episode two.
Speaker 1:Cause ain't nothing but a G-Bang. Baby Too low, damn G. So we crazy. Death row is the label that pays man.
Speaker 2:Unfadable, so please don't try to fade this. But back to the lecture at hand.